How to make use of your alone times.
Many people dread the times when they are left alone. They feel
a sense of emptiness or boredom. They start to look out for
things to do or people to talk to. Some get into habits like
shopping, eating, watching too much television or anything else
to "kill the time."
Anytime is a good time to observe your moment to moment
existence. But your alone times give you the chance to look
deeper and notice the stimulus that cause the circumstances that
you have created.
Alone times are actually what you may need to cure your
dysfunctional feelings and behaviors.
How to make use of your alone times.
Watch what is going on inside you.
The noise that is going around you daily makes it difficult to
become aware of what is actually going on internally. When you
are alone and there is no distraction, you can sit and watch
your feelings and thoughts. You are able to see those internal
pictures that your mind is showing and the voices that is going
back and forth in your head.
Being able to do this regularly will show you that your
experiences in life are the results of what you see and hear
inside. You can then change your external situations by changing
the pictures and voices deliberately that have formed your
beliefs and behaviors.
Watch those things existing and happening outside.
When you watch other people doing things, you will notice that
they do things and act in ways that produce certain outcomes.
You will hear voices that inspire as well as those that put
themselves or others down. You will witness how people treat
each other.
Watching nature and life itself should instill gratitude and
awe. Regardless of what is happening around, the sun still rises
and sets each day. The seasons come and go. Flowers blossom, and
then wither and new ones will sprout. And there's nothing you
can do to change that.
Log your thoughts, feelings and observations in your
journal.
The alone times are great moments to log your internal and
external thoughts and observations. This is the time to check
and measure your productivity and activities over a period of
time to see whether you are making progress.
You can use this opportunity to reevaluate your strengths and
weaknesses. Check on your goals too and check out what you have
accomplished. If you have not written your goals down, it is
about time that you do so.
Just Be.
At times, just sit down quietly and focus on your breath. Don't
resist and fight any thoughts or feelings. Redirect and refocus
to your breathing with each inhalation and exhalation. It
relaxes and quiets your mind. In your daily world of chaos and
stress, you may need this time to find peace within.