How to solve relationship problems.
Relationship problems either with your spouse, family, business
partners or other people affect your personal growth, success
and well being. If you value your relationship, you need to make
better decisions and take specific actions to make them work.
Here are some ideas to help you avoid or solve relationship
problems.
Understanding personal values.
What are your personal values? Misunderstandings and conflicts
happen when your values conflict with those of others and when
expectations are not met.
You can let others know what your values are by telling them
about your ideals. You can find out about others by asking
questions and observing their decisions and actions.
Knowing what's important to others and yourself will avoid
breaking each other's rules and unnecessary conflicts.
Learn to listen.
People want to be heard and appreciated. When you listen
attentively without interrupting and probing, you are showing
courtesy and respect.
Give time and make yourself available. Allow people to talk and
tell you things; the books they have read, the things they did
and how they feel.
Listening to others will also give you the opportunity to know
how a person thinks about his world, values and expectations.
Show kindness.
Other than listening, you can show other acts of kindness.
Smiling is the simplest act to show friendliness.
Make others feel your warmth by offering help and kind words.
Acknowledge their talents and achievements. Give praise and
appreciate their efforts.
Show it in your tone of voice, your posture and your actions.
Avoid arguments. Remove ego and pride.
In an argument, each person wants to prove a point and defend
her opinions. Using force, threats and intimidations rouse
resentments and ill feelings that will then cause more
relationship problems. In the end, no one actually wins and
benefits.
Remove your ego and look at the situation from a different
point of view. It does not mean that you are submitting but
altering your perception. You can alter by asking questions or
break the issues apart. It will enable him to see it differently
too.
Forgive people. They could have been ignorant or unaware. If
you have made a mistake, admit and apologize sincerely.
Give more than you take.
Don't wait for others to give and show their care. You can give
your love and appreciation even when others are not treating you
right.
Contribute your time and effort without expecting anything in
return. When you do good deeds for others, you feel more worthy.
Learn to ask and to share your feelings.
Ask for what you want and expect but don't demand. People can't
read your mind and understand your hints. Make your request
lightly and with a smile.
Communicate and share your thoughts and feelings with them.
Open up and allow them to understand you.
Develop the trust.
Trust is the foundation of relationships. Do what you say you
will do. Keep to your promises. Once people trust you, you can
influence and persuade because they will listen and pay
attention.