7 Steps to Gaining More Confidence
If there were one secret to instantly making your life happier
and more productive, it's self confidence. It's the golden key
that'll unlock the door of your potential. Without it the door
will stay shut and locked forever.
No one wants that!
Below are 7 steps that will help you gain more self confidence.
Along the way, you'll be faced with doubts and plenty of
"Buts...." and "Ifs...." When they come up, recognize them as
the "potential" thiefs that they are and FORCE them out of your
mind. Negativity will only rob you of your hopes and dreams.
When you entertain its thoughts, you're allowing it to do its
job. Take your first 7 steps today and walk with them everyday
hereafter:
1. When self-doubting, negative thoughts enter your mind,
replace them with positive ones. Remember in school when you
learned to conjugate verbs? RUN became RUNNING and RAN, etc. I
want you to start "conjugating" your thoughts. I'M A LOSER
becomes I'M A WINNER, I WISH I WERE SMARTER becomes I'M SMART
AND GETTING SMARTER EVERYDAY, etc! Pushing the thoughts out of
the way isn't quite enough, you have to turn them into something
positive. It won't take long before your mind catches on and
stops creating them in the first place.
2. If there is something that you feel insecure or
self-conscious about, ask yourself if there's anything you can
do about it. If there is, don't let the sun go down on another
day before you start tackling it. No matter what it is, if you
can reach it's cure - do so. You'll not only get rid of that
particular demon, you'll gain so much power and confidence from
being the victor, that'll you'll be ready to face the next one.
3. Never, ever, ever compare yourself to anyone else or measure
your worth against theirs. Only measure yourself against your
best. Don't ask yourself if you did a certain task as well as so
and so, ask yourself if you did the best you could. THEY don't
factor into the equation, you do.
4. You don't expect anyone else to be perfect, stop expecting
yourself to be! Find your faults and either fix them or make
peace with them. A lot of so-called faults are actually assets.
Always remember Mona Lisa. She had a crooked smile, yet hers was
and is arguably the most fascinating smile in the world.
5. If there is someone in your life who causes you to feel
insecure or inferior, talk to them about it. If they're worth
your time, they'll stop causing you to feel this way. If they
aren't worth your time, they'll get defensive. They'll try to
"take the high road", and that's exactly what you should let
them do - as long as the high road is headed in the other
direction! Friends don't knock you down, they lift you up.
6. Think about your assets and strengths. Start today
acknowledging them! If you have a killer sense of humor, start
making a point of sharing it more often. Take what works for you
and work it.
7. Don't think that low self confidence is something that
reading this article through will fix. Self confidence is
something that must be faced each day. You have to go over these
7 steps, not only daily, but sometimes several times a day.
You'll soon recognize the negative, "potential" robbers for what
they are - whether they're other people, deragatory thoughts, or
unrealistic expectations.
Have you ever watched a makeover show? At the end, the person
who was "made over" doesn't really look all that different
physically - but they have a different presence about them. They
hold their head higher, they smile, they even twirl in front of
the mirror! The change has taken place, and 95% of it occured in
their own minds.
It's always the same thing, they weren't appreciating or
accentuating their assets enough, they were being weighed down
with negative thoughts about perceived "flaws" and weren't doing
enough to rid themselves of actual "flaws". All the
hairdressers, wardrobe department, and make-up artists do is
show them what was there all along - underneath the insecurities
and behind the doubts. Your best is right there, as well, and we
want very much for you to find it and flaunt it!