5 Fun & Easy Ways to Get Out of the Rut
I don't know about you, but sometimes I feel less than great.
Low, grouchy, fed-up and bored are all words you could use to
describe what I'm like on those days. Thing is, days like those
are part of the deal with being human - it's not an elective.
There will always be off days, and that's okay.
But what happens when you get a whole string of those off-days,
maybe lasting weeks, months or even years? Too many of us say
that we're in some kind of rut, feel stuck, fed-up or bored and
admit that we don't want things to be that way but that we don't
know what to do to change things. That's the problem, when
you're in a rut you don't have the energy or motivation to
change things for the better, and it's tough to find the insight
or resources you need to make that jump.
Here are five fun and easy ways you can use right now to climb,
or better yet, leap out of the rut and start to get something
better for yourself.
1. Do Something Differently
Life tends to run smoothly when we establish systems and
routines for things, but the problem comes when things run too
smoothly and we become blinded to any ideas, choices or that sit
outside of our routine. All the stuff we do everyday becomes the
norm, runs on auto-pilot and becomes our whole world.
Start with making one or two simple changes to your day - be it
at breakfast time, your radio station, gym routine, route to
work, lunch routine, etc. Don't worry about what the changes are
or whether they're right or wrong, just make a couple of simple
choices that will serve you well.
Doing something differently or changing parts of your routine
instantly takes you out of the norm and allows you to shake off
the things that make you feel confined. Step out of your routine
and you'll be in a position where you're able to make different
choices, see things differently and get a different result.
2. Use your Intuition
Your intuition is a powerful ally, and we all have it even
though you might not recognise it. The dictionary says that
intuition is,
1.a.The act or faculty of knowing or sensing without the use of
rational processes; immediate cognition. b. Knowledge gained by
the use of this faculty; a perceptive insight.
2. A sense of something not evident or deducible; an impression.
One of the best friends you'll ever have in life is your
intuition, and tuning into it and learning to trust it is
something that can have some truly remarkable effects. Accessing
your intuition is a bit like working and developing a muscle,
but unfortunately it can be harder to locate than a bicep or
quadricep, which tend to stay in the same place. Here are some
quick tips for accessing and trusting it -
* Practice maintaining an open-minded, playful, experimental,
non-judgmental attitude. This is the most fertile ground to tap
into your intuition.
* Practice making wild guesses in your everyday life. Guess what
a salesperson's name is, what a new person or place will look
like or who's calling on the phone. Don't worry about getting it
wrong, you're just working that muscle.
* Try a few simple observation exercises in your daily life.
Whether you're in a restaurant, on a train, in a bar or out
shopping, practice noticing non-verbal behavior in others. Look
for shifts in posture, eye movements, vocal tone or tempo, etc.
Guess how they're feeling or what they're talking about.
3. Nourishment
Imagine you're walking home from the supermarket with a couple
of bags of groceries, but those bags have holes in them. You're
walking along merrily leaving a trail of your things behind you,
but when you get home you unpack what's left and ask, 'Didn't I
have more than this?'
Nourishment is about plugging those holes in your life and
making sure you have things in your life that keep you feeling
nourished - nourished in your head, nourished in your heart and
nourished in your stomach. Remember that you can't give away
what you don't have, and can't spend energy you've already spent.
It doesn't have to be the big things in life that nourish you
and it's often the simplest little thing that strikes a chord,
makes you feel like yourself again or makes you smile from ear
to ear - calling a friend, talking a walk in the park or
listening to your favourite song for example. So what keeps you
balanced? What relaxes you or makes you feel peaceful? What
makes you feel like you again?
The fact is that you're important enough to spend time taking
care of and it doesn't matter what it is, just take the time to
do it. If necessary, go as far as booking time in your diary.
You're the only one of you there is, so it's your responsibility
to make sure you're okay.
4. Perfect Day
Here's something to play with - your Perfect Day. This idea came
to me a few years ago when a good friend suddenly asked me 'What
would be your perfect day?' I'd never been asked that before and
I found myself spontaneously making up a story - telling her
about my Perfect Day from the moment my eyes flickered open to
the moment my head hit the pillow.
I went through each part of the day telling her what I was
doing, who I was with, where we were, how it felt and what
happened next. Bit by bit and without even thinking about it,
I'd put together a rich, colourful, exciting and comforting day,
which still holds true as my Perfect Day. The best part is that
you can start introducing little bits of your Perfect Day into
your real life or working to make some of it happen. For
example, in part of my Perfect Day I visit a company where I'm
helping the directors and employees to focus on their strengths
and to create a environment where people love to work and can be
their best - and that was even before I knew that there was such
a thing as coaching or that I could be a coach. My Perfect Day
has now become like a good friend of mine who I can call on
whenever I want to.
So what's your Perfect Day? Don't think too much about it and
don't worry about it sounding silly or too grand. Just shoot
from the hip and see what comes out naturally for you. Write
down words, ideas, themes or a whole narrative - even draw
pictures if you want to. Have fun with it, play with it - it's
your Perfect Day.
5. Get Some Fun, Fulfilment and Freedom
The Three F's - Fun, Fulfilment and Freedom - encompass a lot of
what people are looking for in life, and also contain the
solutions to having, doing and being those things. Here are some
definitions,
Fun, n. - A source of enjoyment or pleasure; playful
activity.
Ful-fil'ment, n. - To bring into actuality; to complete;
a feeling of satisfaction at having achieved your desires.
Free-dom, n. - The capacity to exercise choice, free
will; frankness or boldness; the absence of constraint in choice
or action.
Read those again. Those things are huge, deep and broad, and
are a lot simpler than we make them.
Where are you in relation to each of the Three F's? How much of
each do you have right now? How much of each do you want?
Whatever gap there is recognise that it can be closed, and that
you can close it. What would things be like if you were to close
that gap? What would happen if you climbed a point or two on the
Fun scale? What if you could add a point to your level of
Fulfilment or Freedom? How would that feel? Pretty good, right?
So what one thing can you do right now to help you get more?
By themselves each of the Three F's is a powerful thing, and
can really help to move you forwards, enjoy where you are and
feel alive. But when the Three F's come together....well, just
hold on to your hats and keys.
Rut? What rut?