What 9/11 and a 3-Year-Old Taught Me About Gratitude
Copyright 2005 Tony Mase
One of the most important concepts Wallace D. Wattles wrote
about in his books was gratitude. As a matter of fact, in the
book for which he's best known, "The Science of Getting Rich",
Wallace D. Wattles devoted an entire chapter to gratitude and
used the word gratitude some thirty-two times throughout the
book.
Although I'd been studying "The Science of Getting Rich" by
Wallace D. Wattles for over three years, and made incredible
changes in my life by applying its principles, I still didn't
completely get this gratitude "thing".
I understood the importance of gratitude intellectually and, at
least to some extent, was applying it in my life, but, and I
don't know if this was just a "guy thing" or what, I didn't feel
like I really understood it emotionally at a deep down, visceral
level.
Then it happened...
September 11, 2001...
A day few of us will ever forget.
The one thing I'll always remember most about that fateful day
was my son, who was three years old at the time, looking at me
with his big brown eyes asking me the dreaded but inevitable...
"Why Daddy?"
For lack of anything better, I gave him the best good guy, bad
guy analogy I could come with at the time and then, for whatever
reason, I ended it with, "as bad as this appears to be, we have
a lot to be thankful for."
Hoping that was that, I quickly began thinking of something else
we could do or talk about to get his mind off the horror he'd
just witnessed on television.
Suddenly, I heard him ask...
"Like what Daddy?"
"Like what, what?" I replied.
"Like what we have to be thankful for?" he asked.
"Great," I thought to myself, "I thought we were done with this."
"Well," I said, "we can be thankful that you, me and mommy are
okay. A lot of little boys and girls lost their mommies or
daddies today. Some of them lost both."
He thought for a moment and then asked, "What else Daddy?"
"Well," I replied, "we can be thankful that so many people were
able to get out of those buildings alive before they collapsed."
"What else Daddy?" he asked.
"Well..." I hesitated, desperately trying to think of something
else.
"Come on Daddy," he said, "what else we have to be thankful for?"
"Well," I said, "we can be thankful for all the brave fire
fighters, paramedics and police officers who are helping those
who need it."
"And the fire fighters have fire trucks with lights and sirens,
huh Daddy?" he asked with a smile on his face.
"Yes son, they do," I replied, returning his smile.
"What else Daddy?" he asked.
"Well son," I said, "we can be thankful that we have a strong
military to protect us."
"And they have tanks, huh Daddy?" he asked, this time with a
really big smile (for whatever reason, he *really* likes tanks
:-)).
"Yes son, they do," I replied, "and they have lots of them."
"What else we have to be thankful for Daddy?" he asked...
As his "grilling" continued (which at the time seemed like it
went on forever :-)), and the list of things we had to be
thankful for grew larger and larger and larger, I could *feel*,
rather dramatically, our thoughts shift from those of doubt,
uncertainty, fear and worry, to those of certainty and faith.
Finally...
I got it! :-)
You see, all too often, when something's not "right" in our
lives, or something's not the way we'd prefer it to be, even
though it may be only a *tiny* portion of our overall
experience, we tend to focus all our mental energy on it causing
us to lose our perspective and, in the process, we virtually
insure we'll get more of the same... more of what we *don't*
want.
On the other hand...
Gratitude forces us to focus on what's right in our lives, on
the things that are the way we'd prefer them to be, which,
chances are, are the overwhelming majority of our experience at
any given time, causing us to put things in their proper
perspective and thereby virtually insuring we'll get more of the
same... more of what we *do* want!
Since that unforgettable day, I've repeated this simple exercise
dozens of times...
Whenever I feel thoughts of doubt, uncertainty, fear or worry
starting to creep in, I simply ask myself what I have to be
thankful for right *now* and then I keep asking...
What else...
What else...
What else...
It's never failed yet to almost instantly help me regain a
"constructive" perspective and replace those "destructive"
thoughts of doubt, uncertainty, fear and worry with
"constructive" thoughts of certainty and faith.
Thanks son. :-)