Finding Love and Happiness
Finding Love and Happiness
I've been on a personal search and assisting clients and friends
to find love and happiness for a long time now, and last month I
believe I finally found the key.
We have all heard the old adage that happiness comes from within
and that you have to love yourself before you can expect anyone
else to love you. We all know that you have to have love and
happiness on the inside in order to gain love and happiness on
the outside.
For a long time now I have been being happy and I have been
doing things to love myself. For example to be happy, I have put
a smile on my face, focused on the up-sides, kept my body
language positive. To love myself I have been doing things like
acknowledging myself for my achievements.
The key to love and happiness is to turn these things around!
Instead of being happy and doing things in order to love
yourself - you BE in love with yourself and you DO things that
make you happy!
Last month I did something that made me realize that I did love
myself, that I did respect myself and that I was proud of who I
am. I attended the Anthony Robbins Unleash the Power Within
seminar and I walked bare foot across hot coals.
Please don't go to the extreme that I went to in order to
discover this - because I can assure you that all these things
were already within me. They were resources that I could have
tapped into at any chosen moment. It wasn't walking over hot
coals that made me realize that I loved who I was. Instead
walking over hot coals made me wake up and take stock of myself.
Why had I had to wait until I had walked over hot coals to
realize that I was everything I wanted to be?
The tears were not tears of joy of the achievement, rather they
were tears of letting go. Letting go of the person who had tried
so hard for so many years to prove to herself and to others that
she was worthy, that she was good enough. You and I are so much
better than that. We are not worthy, we are entitled. We are not
good enough - we are outstanding human beings.
You are the most important and special person in your life. Do
not measure yourself by your achievements - measure yourself by
your wonderful smile and the sunshine that you bring to others.
Do not measure yourself by how far you feel you have yet to
travel - instead acknowledge yourself as a person on a path of
continuous improvement, a person who reads this type of article
and seeks the path of excellence. Do not reflect on how hard the
path has been - reward yourself for being the outstanding person
you are that has got yourself this far. You made it. Do not
measure yourself against others. I see so many clients that
think that because they are better than ___ (insert the name of
the person who is not as good as you in your eyes) they are ok.
Or worse, that they could never be a good as ___ (enter your
hero) so they have given up trying.
Go to the mirror. Look long and hard at the beautiful person in
the reflection. Then lift your chin two inches higher and take a
better look. Decide today that the person in that mirror is a
person you love. Disregard achievements, qualities,
qualifications, criteria and anything else that you have used as
a measure in the past. It's time now to love you just for being
you.
As soon as you do this, you start to do things that make you
happy. How hard have you worked in the past to make other people
that you love happy? Now put the same dedication into your own
happiness.
Dedicate 2 hours to yourself this week. Go and do something for
your own happiness. Not for anyone else but yourself. Maybe a
massage, a facial, a day out at a gallery, a picnic for one with
a book you have been meaning to read for months, a class or
activity. Anything that is all about selfish pleasure and pure
indulgence for yourself.
After you have done this notice how you cant help but love
yourself even more and feel even happier. In fact I wouldn't be
surprised to hear you say that the more often you do this for
yourself, the more you respect yourself and the happier you feel
everyday!