A Question of Rejection
Copyright 2005 Rasheed Ali
We keep going back, stronger, not weaker, because we will not
allow rejection to beat us down. It will only strengthen our
resolve. To be successful there is no other way." - Earl G.
Graves
Have you ever been afraid of being rejected by others?
How do you feel when others reject you from their "world" or
because you didn't do something to their liking?
Do you care?
Well the FACT is that most of us do care AND we let this type of
rejection rule our lives.
The problem is Fear of Rejection is a MAJOR obstacle that most
people never realize is controlling their lives.
You see, wanting to be accepted and please others is a very
human and natural thing which begins very early on in life.
HOWEVER...
As we get older and form our own beliefs, we also seek to belong
to and associate with people who have concurrent beliefs.
At whatever age, this is when the Fear of Rejection begins.
When we do things that our social group does not like or is
against their beliefs (regardless of what) we experience
rejection in some form.
Rejection comes in many forms, but is usually NEGATIVITY from
family, friends, customers, or business associates.
This fear of not belonging or not being accepted often stops our
progress.
So what's the solution?
Well, my friend Mike Litman experienced many rejections,
sarcastic remarks and was even laughed at when he was trying to
get his book published.
"Who wants to read a book with interviews you had with
millionaires," they said.
Little did they know that Mike wouldn't let that stop him
because, "Conversations With Millionaires" went on to become an
International Best Seller and Mike a self made millionaire!
The truth of the matter is that NEGATIVITY and INDIFFERENCE can
make you successful despite what you've been told.
Here's how...
The most successful people or the high achievers of this world,
do things that others don't or are not willing to do. They are
willing to pay the price for what they want including
experiencing rejection.
They work harder, they work longer and they take the negativity
of others, become indifferent to what they say and use it to
achieve their goals.
Yes, EVEN if its family.
Some time ago a friend of mine was taking care of his terminally
ill father. He did anything he could to make him comfortable
regardless of his own well being.
His family said nothing.
When his schedule was too hectic to make it to his father for
just one day, his family had endless negative things to say.
This rejection caused him to avoid being rejected at any cost,
even his own health. He began spending more and more time with
his father. Finally his health DID begin to deteriorate, due to
lack of rest and he crashed.
One day he sat and thought of where he went wrong only to
discover that he was avoiding rejection and trying to please
everyone all the time.
Fear of Rejection clouded his judgment and caused him to risk
his own health.
FACT - Rejection causes reduced IQ and impulsive behavior.
I've found the above to be true, only if we let rejection
conquer us.
So your solution... "BE LIKE MIKE"
Take the negativity, conquer it with indifference, and use it to
achieve your goal, wealth, health and happiness.
"Dear to us are those who love us... but dearer are those who
reject us as unworthy, for they add another life; they build a
heaven before us whereof we had not dreamed, and thereby supply
to us new powers out of the recesses of the spirit, and urge us
to new and unattempted performances."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson