Self Confidence - 7 Secrets Steps for Building Unshakable High
Confidence
The following strategies may be useful to overcome such
self-conquering thought habits. Consider these steps as the
building blocks for greater confidence in any aspect of your
life.
1. Begin with writing a journal.
One benefit in self-analysis is by using a personal journal or
diary. Try to ask yourself what is making you feel or think like
you cannot get to a point in your life that you want to achieve.
Write any thoughts that come to mind. Also, write down what the
meaning of self-confidence is to you.
Dr. Gordon MacDonald, Inter-Varsity Christian Fellowship
president, speaks about the significance of keeping this
spiritual practice: "For many years I have kept a daily journal
of what I am doing, why I am doing it, and what the results are.
Just forcing it onto paper makes me ask what is going on in my
life." That method will guarantee a particular quantity of
impartiality, for when we look at our feelings and our lives on
paper, it is easier to see our faults and the aspects where we
are misleading ourselves.
Bear in mind, practices such as this do not work for everyone,
and if, after experimenting with a journal, it does not increase
your self-confidence, merely scrap the idea.
2. Concentrate on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses.
Confidence comes from within. You have to concentrate on the
positive things about yourself. Remember the past is over; you
can only change the future. Write down ten positive things about
yourself. Go through your journal and look at all the positive
things about yourself. Concentrate on your potentials. These are
the reasons you should love yourself and have high
self-confidence in yourself. Give yourself credit for every
positive thing you have written about yourself. Remember, you're
somebody special.
3. Accept and love yourself.
Learn to accept and love yourself for who you are as a person.
Everyone has their own distinctive abilities, qualities and
characteristics. We are all born differently for a reason. Don't
ever compare yourself to others.
Note also the things that make you unique. Instead of wasting
mental energy strategizing how to be more like the herd, you
might do better to use some of your thinking time on how you
want to set yourself off from the crowd. In your journal, for
example, it might be effective to make a list from time to time
under the title, "How I Seem to Be Different." Write down the
interests and preferences that make you distinct.
You must also make a list of all your positive traits and strong
points on your journal. By doing this, you are telling yourself
that you too have praise-worthy characteristics like others. You
will like yourself and feel confident about yourself after this.
4. Remind yourself of past successes.
Confidence builds on past success. Because you had success
before, you can (and will) have it once more. We strengthen our
confidence in any interest when we remind or review ourselves of
past successes. If you are trying to develop confidence in a new
aspect, past success can still be useful in strengthening our
confidence. For instance, if you had success in doing something
new in the past, recall those experiences when trying something
else new - even if it is in a completely different part of your
life.
5. Motivate yourself.
Whether it is for a presentation or for an interview, remind
yourself that you can do it. Encourage yourself each day and
soon you will find your confidence level increasing. Another
helpful way for motivation is that after work or study each day,
you should make a list of at least five things that you did well
for that day.
6. Take risks.
Try doing things that you've never tried before. It's always a
little bit of a challenge in doing new things and just the act
of accepting these challenges, some little and some big, whether
we are successful or not, frequently improves our
self-confidence. Approach new experiences as opportunities to
learn instead of occasions to win or lose. Doing so brings you
new opportunities and can improve your sense of self-acceptance.
Not doing so turns every possibility into an opportunity for
failure, and inhibits self-growth.
People who have a high level of self-confidence do not fear to
go out and "do it now." They may have no more talent or
capability than anyone else, but going out and doing "it" is no
problem because they feel confident they will succeed. They are
less afraid of committing mistakes and utilize more
opportunities to succeed than those who have low
self-confidence. Self-confident people probably commit more
mistakes than those who are not self-confident, but they most
likely have far more successes than the average because of their
confidence in themselves.
7. Acknowledge your success.
Give yourself credit for everything you try. By emphasizing on
what you can do, you applaud yourself for efforts instead of
focusing on end products. Starting from a foundation of what you
must do helps you live within the bounds of your inevitable
weaknesses.
One's achievements have considerable significance for building a
strong sense of self-worth. You must acknowledge your success
for every task or job you do. Congratulate yourself each time
you succeed. Reward yourself each time you do something that
makes you feel satisfied ... go out some place or take it easy
for the day. If you don't do well, correct your mistakes. Be
careful about reproving yourself, except in severe instances.
Remember, you're number one! You must learn to accept who you
are, be proud of the person you are. Only then will you feel
your self-confidence rise up to the skies!
These steps are a regimen for strengthening and building your
self-confidence in any life circumstances. Make use of these
steps and I am confident, you will be more confident.