Top 5 Ways to Stay Calm and Reduce Stress Throughout the Day
By John Halderman
(c)John Halderman - All rights reserved
http://www.activepersonaldevelopment.com
Are you looking for more calm satisfying experience with you
daily life? Do you get frustrated with yourself at the end of
the day because you've gotten stressed, unfocused or agitated?
Are you tired of getting over emotional and worn out.
Whether you are experiencing one or all of these feelings here
are my 5 best tips on reducing the unwanted feelings so that you
will feel calm and satisfied with yourself each day.
1. Catch yourself when you exhibit a feeling of behavior that
you don't like and change it.
At first you may not notice the feeling until after you have
gone through it, that's fine.
Think about how you would rather have felt.
Think about how you would rather have handled yourself.
Decide how you want to do it next time.
As you continue with this process each day you will find that
you will notice more easily what you are doing throughout the
day.
You will begin to catch yourself earlier and earlier as you do
this.
Eventually, you will be seeing yourself while you are doing it,
then stop yourself.
At some point you will be able to notice before you even begin
to feel and react in the undesirable way.
Here is where you will actually begin to change the way you
react to the situations in your life and change your behavior.
2. Stay centered all day by refocusing throughout the day.
Develop the habit of paying attention to your mindset as the day
goes on.
Several times a day, step away from what you are doing to get
re-centered.
Sit down close your eyes and take several long slow deep breaths
while imagining the tension washing slowly out of your body.
Notice your breathing getting slower and calmer.
Just think about your breath.
Try to keep from thinking about anything in particular.
It's OK to not be actively thinking for a while!
3. Watch out for your expectations.
You are setting yourself up for failure, upset and frustration
when you set too many standards as to how you think things
should be.
Think about what leads you to getting upset?
Why does it set you?
Notice that you decide how many things should be, based on your
own outlook and desire.
The things others do that are not to your liking as well as the
things you do that don't match your expectations.
Ask yourself, really how important is it that they be exactly
that way? Ask, who am I to insist that they are that way?
Does it matter that much?
Is it worth getting myself worked up about?
Choose what expectations are really important for you to hold on
to and which ones not too.
Holding on to too many just complicates your life, with constant
judgment.
Simplify your life and reduce the stress!
4. Delegate.
This applies to your personal life as well as at work.
Most of us think of delegating as a workplace skill, but it can
apply personally as well.
We are all very busy these days with our activities and duties.
Trying to fit it all in and get it all accomplished can lead to
tension.
For various reasons, many of us have developed the habit
thinking we must do it all ourselves. Take a look at your
situation.
Think about it, really, how important is it that everything must
be done perfectly to your standards?
Are you sure there are not other people who can assist you?
Are the other people in your life pulling their weight?
Many times we get into habit ruts that don't need to be as they
are.
Look at what has been with the eye of reducing the pressure on
yourself.
5. Accept other people as one.
As you think of yourself as different and separate from the rest
of mankind, you unknowingly create thinking and behavior that
separates you from others.
This kind of separate thinking leads us to think we are superior
to others, which leads to judgment and selfish thinking and
behavior.
We then are having an internal battle with all others, which
brings on fear, competition and comparison.
Look to discovering how to see yourself as one with all of
mankind, not as separate.
Focus on what we all have in common rather that the relatively
small uniqueness.
In conclusion-
Pay attention to what you are involved with, how you perceive
things, how you react and what you feel about them.
If you actively seek to make small adjustments in your life to
reduce irritation and stress you will find yourself living with
more happiness and joy.