What end result do you want?
Ever noticed that when you have swags of time to complete a task
then it takes much more time to complete it than is necessary?
I'm aware of a similar phenomenon with money. When I have my
mortgage or health insurance debited from an account before
funds are paid through to me, it's amazing how that amount is
not missed and I easily live within the amount that I receive.
Yet when provided my total funds available first, how hard it is
to pool the amount needed to pay that mortgage and insurance?
The thoughts in my mind and the gift that is my life, are not
unlike these two scenarios. When I leave such vacuums in my mind
and my life, they will be filled for me. Moment by moment and
usually with other people's agendas. My points of focus are then
not my own. The distractions that can fill the voids are
endless.
The first thing that I work on with clients is "What end result
do you want?"
This one question can be such a struggle. In fact, some people
never begin working with me because they cannot answer that
question - not recognising that a coach will first work with you
to crystallise your vision. Often the initial responses given
are, what we think that others think that we should want for
ourselves. Sometimes the answer is even what 'we think' that we
think we want!
If I can give no authentic response to that question then I must
be living from someone else's agenda. It cannot be any other
way. My thoughts and activities cannot have been allocated a
specific focus if I find myself aimlessly bobbing on the waves.
My mind operates like a filter and also as radar. With all the
stimulus coming at me then what is my brain filtering out, and
on what is my mind focused? If I feel that I have fewer options
in life and am experiencing overwhelm then I have not got clear
with what I really want and my life will be an expression of
survival or chaos. When there's no mental image... expect total
confusion!
I am much more inspired when firmly grounding my goals in what I
want and where I ultimately want to go rather than basing my
goals on what I have or what I have done. The other thing to
recognise here, is that there is no right or wrong answer to the
question "What end result do you want?". There is also not
always a single answer nor multiple answers. That is completely
personal.
How do you come about the answers for you? There are a miriad of
ways to get access to what touches your heart and what would
fulfil your life. It's one of the reasons that I load this
e-zine up with so many "triggers" for you.
Working one to one with a coach over a period allows for setting
aside time for focused conversation; exploring many avenues and
then gradually exposing the desired outcomes that "fit like a
glove" for you. This quote may be a good place to begin your
enquiry:
"View life as a series of movie frames, the ending and
meaning may not be apparent until the very end of the movie, and
yet, each of the hundreds of individual frames has meaning
within the context of the whole movie. View your life from your
funeral, looking back at your life experiences, what have you
accomplished? What would you have wanted to accomplish but
didn't? What were the happy moments? What were the sad? What
would you do again, and what you wouldn't?" ~Victor Frankl~