Hypnosis Cd - Self Confidence
I think it is appropriate to discuss what self-confidence is,
before discussing how a self-hypnosis cd may help improve self-confidence.
We, as human beings, do many things on automatic pilot or
without having to think too much about it... at least
consciously any how. An example would be tying a shoelace. Even
though we might have gone through a few years of fashion wearing
slip on's, if we needed to, we would not find any difficulty in
tying a shoelace. That is because we have done it so many times
before that we know just what to do and do not have to give it
too much conscious thought. So if you were to ask someone, how
confident are you that you can tie a shoelace, they would
probably say 'very confident'. They feel confident about it
because they have done it many many times before successfully.
In fact they now give very little thought to actions required to
tie that shoelace as it all happens automatically.
This is a type of self confidence. Knowing something so well,
that as the saying goes, you could do it with your eyes closed
or you know it like the back of your hand.
When someone says that they lack confidence or have low
confidence, they can so easily make the mistake of covering
their whole life with this description or tag. They might even
say 'I never have any confidence in myself'. By saying this out
loud to others who will listen, or thinking it to themselves
they will be setting up a self-fulfilling prophecy. The label
you give yourself or the label you accept as being true (whether
from a friend, family member, colleague or even from school)
will invariably mean that you start to fit yourself to that
label, and, can make it your own living reality.
Yet, that person above will be able to do many things with
confidence but, and here is the big 'but' they will not use
these successes and evidence of confidence, as they should be
used. They will ignore them or diminish them in some way (e.g.
saying "I was lucky") so that they do not contradict this label
that they have accepted of having no confidence. Which is a pity
because it is only taking a realistic view of what happens in
their world, will they then be able to feel more confident about
themselves.
It can be quite amazing how someone will say they have no
confidence and yet 5 minutes later they will tell you about some
amazing things that they do such as talking in front of 10,000
people, or they go mountain climbing. Despite undertaking these
events, which ordinarily seem nerve wracking events, they may
still say that they have low confidence.
So confidence or the lack of it, has a lot to do with how you
view yourself. If this is the case then really it is down to a
perception. Perceptions are not a true reflection of reality all
of the time. Often perceptions even between just 2 people can be
remarkably different even though these 2 people have in reality,
experienced exactly the same thing.
Perceptions are the filters we use to process what happens
around us. Our perceptions can make us feel good, bad or
indifferent. They can give us a boost of energy or deflate us
into an anxious and fearful mass. Our perceptions have power.
Our perceptions are, more often than not, based on our past
conscious and subconscious experiences. They are our way of
analysing what happens around and enabling us to decide the
implications for us. When experiencing anything, our minds will
very quickly compare the current experience to past experiences
and, these past experiences will indicate how we should react to
this current experience. If we have had a bad experience that
seems very similar to the current experience, we will feel in a
similar way to the feeling we associated with that past bad
experience.
So our perceptions are based on past experiences (mostly).
Once we realise this, we can take control of our perceptions and
change them particularly when you accept how incorrect our
perceptions can be. We have all had the experience of perceiving
someone or some situation in a particular way, only to realise
that we got it completely wrong. With this in mind, although our
perceptions are a form or protection and are meant to enable us
to weigh up a situation quickly, they can also be wholly
inaccurate.
Positive and healthy self-confidence begins by accepting that
your perception of yourself may just be wrong. For instance,
some friends will be astounded when someone announces (may be on
a drunken evening), how they feel they have such low confidence.
These friends will say will all sincerity that they find this
hard to believe as they always appear confident and in control.
Yet that person will still insist that they lack confidence.
Obviously the signals that they are externalising are not the
same as those that they are internalising. Often the person who
appears to be the most confident and out-going will have
terrible doubts and internal conflicts. The external bravado
will be they way of masking how they feel inside.
Good, strong and healthy self-confidence begins by admitting and
accepting more evidence of what you can and do well. It also
begins by accepting as true those positive and complimentary
comments made to you. In the past you may have dismissed a
positive comment that was said to you because you didn't know
how to handle it. You may even have made a joke of it or tried
to dig up the tiniest fragment of evidence as to why you don't
deserve such praise. Many people say something like this 'Oh, it
was nothing'.
How can you possibly retain healthy self-confidence if you
always dismiss or undermine your achievements? You can't, so
decide from today not to do it. In fact decide from today to say
just two words when some one says something nice or
complimentary about you or something you have done. These two
words are 'thank you'. Try it out next time and see how you feel
about it. It will help you start to feel the confidence that has
always been they're waiting for you.
The use of a Self Confidence self hypnosis cd can help the mind
to absorb positive suggestions for change. Changes in perception
and behaviour are also encouraged.
There are other aspects to gaining healthy self-confdience which
will be disussed in another article.