Get Negativity Out Of Your Life!
They say that the way to have a positive attitude and a positive
life is to surround yourself only with positive things and
positive people. What do you do then, when the negative
influence in your life comes from your friend, maybe your best
friend, or even worse, your spouse? If you are to take the
positive advice literally, you are going to dump them! We both
know that such advice simply is not acceptable. So what DO you
do? Firstly, have you considered the fact that subconsciously if
not consciously, such people could be afraid? Afraid that you
might be growing beyond them and leaving them behind? Afraid
that your success may diminish their own achievements or their
feelings of self-worth? All these fears and more are quite
possible and mentioned here that you may consider a different
viewpoint. In the ideal world, you convert negative thinkers to
your positive way of thinking. Unfortunately we do not live in
an ideal world and we would not want to force everyone to think
in the same way as you and I. What you do is simply this: Take
the positive step of accepting them for who they are - your
friend, your spouse. We All Have The Right To Choose! We all
have the right to choose. No-one can take that away from us. It
is no different for those who are close to us. We may not like
their attitude or way of thinking. We may even consider them to
be completely wrong or out of order, but that doesn't change a
thing. Okay, so let's say we do that. Where does that leave us?
We still have those negative vibes coming through. We have
already come to the conclusion that we can't change the person,
so the only person left is ourselves. When the negative shots
are fired at us, what do we find ourselves focusing on? The
negative projectiles fired at us. Right? If we accept that we
cannot change the person, then we are left with changing our
thinking. That means how we think and what we focus on.The way
we feel after receiving negative input, is no more than a
reaction. Control your reaction and win. Expectations. When you
have a new venture, an idea, a piece of personal excitement that
you want to share, you expect a particular kind of reaction and
are quite disappointed when it isn't forthcoming. Notice what
happens when you reverse the approach. I.e. When you have no
expectations whatsoever! Suddenly, even the tiniest positive
return is a huge bonus! If you don't get any, then it ceases to
matter because you weren't expecting any anyway! So, instead of
focussing on the negative, focus on the good. Focus On The Good!
To some extent you need to be single-minded, focussing on your
goal rather than theirs at that moment in time. So, if you
haven`t already done so, get your goal firmly fixed in your
mind. Determine how much you really want it, and ask yourself
whether or not you are prepared to pay the price. Are You
Prepared To Pay The Price? Does that frighten you? Paying the
price? It shouldn`t. Whatever we achieve in this life always
requires a price to be paid. Sometimes it is a financial amount.
Other times, it may simply be time, and so on. Every single day,
you are already "paying the price" on numerous achievements, big
and small. In this particular circumstance, the way in which you
pay the price is to focus entirely on your objective in such a
way that negative comments or influences simply have no
leverage. Believe in yourself sincerely and you will not fail.
As I mentioned previously, many "positive thinking" speakers
direct you to surround yourself with positive people and a
positive environment in order for you to remain positive in all
you do. I have no doubt that if you are able to achieve the
building of such an environment that it works! Picture the
scene: You get out of bed in the morning and the sun is shining,
the sky is blue. If you have a spouse, they greet you with a
kiss. The smiling postman never brings any bills. Everyone on
the way to work drives so happily and considerately. Your boss
holds the door open for you as you enter the air-conditioned
building and you have just the right amount of work to do to
keep you positively charged. You need to do something -.snap
your fingers! Wake up! It just cannot be done to this extreme. I
jest here. I still believe that to keep yourself surrounded by
positive people will work for you, but it is unlikely that such
an environment could be sustained for very long at all. This
would be the ideal world we mentioned. The fact is however, that
we invariably do not live in this kind of world and somewhere
along the way we associate with people who do not share our
values, ideals, excitement. What then? It could be our friends,
our family or worse, our spouse. Do we go away and quietly curl
up in a corner somewhere and forget about any "wild idea" that
we had? No. Of course not. What would be the point in getting
involved with any positive idea otherwise! No, the key is to
mentally consider those you associate with and determine those
who are supportive, forward thinking and positive. Get An
Injection Of Positivity! These will be the kind of people who
will not blindly say "well done, go for it", but those who
genuinely encourage you to develop, to move forward, to make
something of yourself. Take a minute