Shooting From the Lip...It's a deadly game
Shooting From the Lip...It's a deadly game by Oscar Bruce
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Shooting From the Lip...It's a deadly game. FOOT IN MOUTH
DEPARTMENT
By Oscar Bruce
In Northern Canada there are two seasons, winter and July. When
the back roads thaw in July they get muddy. Trucks traveling the
back roads leave deep ruts that become frozen when winter
returns. When you enter the backwoods you are greeted by a sign
that says, "Drivers, please choose carefully which ruts you
drive in, because you'll be in it for the next twenty miles."
Mark Twain gives us the following advice. "The secret to good
conversation is leaving out the wrong words."
The same thing can be said about your own conversations. Choose
your words carefully; you may have to live with the disastrous
consequences for the next twenty years. I've seen many
friendships, and business opportunities sabotaged because
someone pulled the trigger before they assessed the
consequences. Words, once spoken, can never be recalled.
So what I call quick-draw, "shooting from the lip" words or
comments are opportunity killers. Although some try to fluff
them off as just "misspeak" they are still irreversible
disasters in the making. "Of course if your language tools are
limited and your verbal options are in short supply, you are
just shooting blanks. Your verbal options probably need
expanding. Learning and crafting your message with new, powerful
and influential words and phrases is a must in our "you don't
get a second chance to make a first impression" world.
WHY DO SMART PEOPLE SAY STUPID THINGS?
It's all about habit.
Somewhere in our past we heard our habitual pop-off comments and
thought they were clever. We adopted them into our speech
patterns. But what you thought was clever may sound mean or
smart-aleck to others. That favorite expression so carelessly
thrown out could live on to haunt you for life.
SO WHAT'S THE SOLUTION? As Mark Twain said "The secret to good
conversation is leaving out the wrong words."
So the solution is simple, throw out the old and replace with a
verbal upgrade. Acquire new alternative ways of expressing
yourself. Make your conversations so powerful others want to be
with you and give you your way. You'll be surprised what you can
get when you ask for it the right way. Better words always make
things better.
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The Author, Oscar Bruce is the ultimate personal communications
guru. His dynamic books are considered the field manuals for
mastering conversation and confrontations. His website offers
several verbal strategies that can add power to your
conversations.
HIS FREE NEWSLETTER "Talk Tips" is available at
http://www.oscarbruce.com
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