Three Key Behaviors That Determine Your Success
Success is a journey and along the way, we need to correct our
course by unlearning the behavior that derails us and invite in
a new behavior to continue our success. If you feel you want to
change your success, take a measure of your current key
behaviors.
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Listening
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Listening is not a passive activity. It is unfair to the person
who is speaking to have a person there in body but not in mind.
Just because we are the person being quiet does not mean we are
listening. As a listener we must be in the present and taking in
the speakers message in the proper context. It's not the time to
be thinking about what to have for lunch or your next witty
comeback. Be fair to the speaker and have a clear and open mind.
Active listening requires us to set aside our own agenda, uses
our best internal language skills, and takes present energy. The
best gift to yourself and to your speaker if the energy isn't
available is to say so. Yet, due to the perception management
masks we've learned from society, we don't usually provide this
honest feedback. So, we passively listen, like pretending, as a
child, to hear, and say something quick, something we think they
want to hear, just so we can move on.
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Choice
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The Power of Choice is the energy we send out and is exactly
what the Universe sends us back. No choice is a choice too. I
believe that we are where we are today because of the
accumulative effect of all our choices. We made thousands of
choices each day and we control our lives by those choices.
Having the ability to choose equals power. When we don't choose,
you give someone else the ability to make choices for you,
whatever they may be, and you give up any possible power with
it. Once you realize you have the power of choice, life happens
for you, not to you!
Feel your power. It is a powerful resource to success.
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Internal Dialogue
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All day long, everyday, we talk to ourselves. Sometimes we even
talk to ourselves out loud. When we talk to ourselves, what we
are really doing is giving out commands to our subconscious
mind. The subconscious mind is a very powerful tool and it can
carry out its orders efficiently and effectively.
We've been listening to ourselves talk for so long, we have just
learned to hear past it. The noise of our inner dialogue can
usually and can only be heard if its screaming or if someone
points it out.
This discussion is telling us what we need, how we want it, and
what we will and will not do in order to get it. We assume, we
don't know what we want, until we begin to listen. Until we
begin to stop long enough to ask what it is that our internal
dialogue wants or needs.
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Success Begins Here
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These are the three toughest keys to behaving our way to
success. Are you listening to yourself? Are you listening to
people who are already successful? All excellent questions to
ponder on from time to time. To check in with our self
frequently to see where we stand on them. They are keys that are
continuously evolving as we mature and will not actually stop.
They require gentle nudging, gentle understanding, gentleness
all around.
(c) Copyright, Catherine Franz, 2003, 2004. All rights reserved.