Living Without Your Anger
Living Without Your Anger by Alan Tutt http://www.KeysToPower.com
Up until several years ago, I was a champion 'angry person', in
that just about everything in my life made me angry. If someone
was unkind, or thoughtless, or selfish, or anything I didn't
like, I got angry. And not just upset, but all-out, smoke
rolling out of my ears, ANGRY!
But the principles that I was learning led me to realize that
every time I got angry, whether I expressed it or not, I was
directing Power to create future experiences that would mimic or
resonate with that anger. I knew that I had a problem to deal
with.
I understand where the philosophy of 'living with your anger'
comes from, as well as the philosophy of express it to get rid
of it. But at least in my case, everything I expressed got
easier to express, and it just grew and grew. I had to eliminate
it completely.
And here's the major thing that helped with that. Anger is the
feeling that things, situations, and people should be something
they are not. Anger is judgment. If you take away the judgment,
you eliminate the source of the anger. Actually, this is one
lesson learned from the Buddhists. If you can eliminate your
'attachment' to the world and conditions, you can reach
'enlightenment'.
I don't get angry anymore. Frustrated sometimes, but I remind
myself that the world is as it is, and I won't help anything by
getting angry, upset, or frustrated.
The transformation in me was like the transformation of a
lifelong smoker who got scared out of the habit (yes, anger is a
habit) by the reality of the disease (cancer in the case of the
smoker). There's a simple truth; your actions (and thoughts and
feelings) today will create your reality tomorrow.
The transformation wasn't easy, but it did happen. I had to
constantly remind myself that everything I thought and felt was
directing Power to create my future. I had to ask myself for
every little thing (whether anger was involved or not - to
develop the habit) "What kind of future do you want to create?"
Eventually, the anger habit was broken, and a new habit took its
place. Another thing that really helped with this was long
periods of focusing on the opposite of anger, happiness. Every
day for about 6-8 weeks, I sat down to 2 or 3 sessions of 30-60
minutes each and did nothing but focus on love, happiness,
harmony, and such. I knew that I had to get used to something
other than anger, so I trained my mind and emotions to express
something else. Guess what, it worked.
But what was even better, was that it did a lot more for me than
simply giving me control over my anger. All of that time
focusing on love, happiness, and harmony had directed Power to
create some wonderful experiences in my life.
For the first time ever, everything around me seemed to go
right. Every person I talked to seemed like they enjoyed my
company and wanted to help me in the issues I was dealing with
at the time. I had created so much 'good luck' in the process of
focusing on happiness and love that I started wondering what was
wrong.
And guess what that did? Yep, things started to go wrong again.
But I quickly realized what was happening and started keeping my
focus on what was right, and what I wanted to be right. I know
now, beyond any shadow of a doubt, that my thoughts and feelings
control my reality. And that any habit, even anger, can be
conquered.
Now, every morning after I get out of bed, I spend about 20
minutes centering myself and finding the joy and happiness
within. People tell me that I have incredible patience. My
response is usually, "What good would it do for me to get
upset?"