Criticism: An Expression of Unhappiness With Ourselves
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I am always bothered whenever I see someone criticizing another
person in a loud, angry, and boisterous manner. It bothers me
because, although it may have been meant to be constructive, it
is, in reality, destructive for both parties. And I know that
the experience does not have to be destructive.
What the criticizing person fails to realize is that he (or she)
is showing his ignorance. He is actually demonstrating his
unhappiness with himself.
Consequently, he concentrates on what is wrong with everything
instead of what is right. He does not see the sky; he sees the
rainy clouds. He does not see the true potential of his wife,
his children, or his employees; he only sees their tiny natural
mistakes.
This person concentrates on the specks of dust that may be found
on a masterpiece and misses the masterpiece, itself. As a
result, he goes through life missing the beauty and gusto of
life.
That is why real love, real, well-adjusted and true love, is so
great. It stops to smell the roses, to see the ducks in the
lake, to see the butterflies on the flowers. The total image is
so wonderful that the little flaws become insignificant; they
are not noticed.
The truly loving person smiles and understands when his spouse,
his children, or his employees make a mistake.
Criticize the important people in your life and you expose your
ignorance about making and keeping positive and healthy
relationships. Establish, instead, positive and healthy
relationships by leading the way, setting positive examples,
listening closely to what they say and don't say, and showing
your spouse, children, or employees your love for them.
Actions speak louder than words, they say. And your positive
actions will show others that you truly care about them, not
their mistakes.
When your positive message is frequent and consistent, it will
motivate others to follow your lead.
Train yourself to see them not as people who make mistakes, but
as totally whole images who are capable of so much more.
Remember: When you maximize your potential, everyone wins. When
you don't, we all lose.