Slay The Toxic Dragon In Your Life
How To "Slay The Dragon" In Your Life In Five Simple Steps
Any time you spend around that toxic dragon , you are adding
another cup full of misery to your life. You must accept that
the toxic person you are with will not change, does not want to
change, and does not want you to change. The toxic people want
to keep poisoning you with their behavior and feel that they
have every right to do so. Toxic people roam around freely and
openly because they can. They take our energy, strength, love,
and our precious time on this earth. This goes on and on and
slowly before we know it, our lives are used up,our hearts and
souls are ruined, and the dragon keeps on going like the
energizer bunny. This is a truth that each of us needs to
understand. Some people cannot be around each other, be
together, or even mix without harmful effects. There are
definite mismatches that were never meant to be and certainly
were not meant to continue. Coming to grips with the fact that
you must leave a toxic relationship is one of the most difficult
things you will ever do. It is a life changing experience and
you have to have the strength to do it.
Get Prepared To Slay The Dragon By Doing These Simple tasks: Sit
down with a friend, co worker, a neighbor, or a family member
and review what is going on in the toxic relationship. You need
someone who can help you put the whole situation in perspective.
Unfortunately we may be so close we cannot see the forest
through the trees. Maybe we have started to think all of this is
our fault. (It isn't.) Make a list of what has been going on,
the things that have been said or done which have left you
feeling destroyed. Talk about how that toxic person makes you
feel and how so far you have felt powerless to change things.
Realize that love and pain are not one and the same. You do not
have a good or healthy relationship if you feel drained, used,
hurt, and humiliated by that person. If you are angry,
depressed, lonely, hurt when you are with this person, it is no
good. It is not love. It is simply an addicition to the toxic
drug of choice.
Is there a reason you have been sticking with this relationship
which has nothing to do with your feelings? Are you staying in
this relationship for your friends, for your parents for your
kids? This is not good. The clock is ticking, your life is
slipping away. You cannot stay in a toxic relationship for the
sake of anyone else. The relationship has lost it's value if
being around the person makes you feel horrible. Don't hold onto
a hot potato.
Decide if you have to make the break and then do it permanently.
No trial separations, no second chances, no giving it more time.
Time will only suck more energy out of you and make the dragon
stronger. This is asking a lot from you because you have become
somewhat used to this toxic relationship. In some ways you find
yourself attracted to it, maybe for money, security, sex, etc.
Sometimes you have to give up a lot to get out.
Work on your health and physical fitness. Strong body, strong
mind. Work on curbing any of your habits which are hurting you,
like overeating or using alcohol or drugs. Make sure you are in
shape to slay the dragon before you start. The dragon will not
go away easily. There may be a confrontation and you need to be
strong enough to handle it.
Only you can get yourself out of the toxic relationship. Only
you can slay the toxic dragon. You have given the power away to
someone who has no love for you. Now is the time to take back
the power and take back your life.