Romance: The Internal Process
Romance: The Internal Process
If you grew up in the 80s like I did, you might remember the
group Depeche Mode and their hit "Just Can't Get Enough." It is
a song about being obsessed with the idea of being with someone,
about needing another person. Romance easily becomes this
addiction when we believe that we are not complete without
someone else and that we simply cannot get enough of the
blissful feeling we get when we are with him or her. When we
believe we need the romance to be complete, we are in trouble
for we are perfect and complete, connected to the world at all
times - we merely need to choose to acknowledge that we are.
In a very special way, romantic relationships are that journey
back to love, back to the knowing that we are all part of a
macrocosm called Life and that we can access the wonders of
love, compassion, understanding, harmony, peace and more, simply
by making such choices.
Physically, we're all made basically the same way, save for
gender differences. But whether one is Madonna, Prince Charles,
me, you or the waitress that served you lunch today, our bodies
all operate in a similar manner. The way we behave and our ideas
about things stems from psychological differences. Different
ways in which we think cause us to make certain decisions.
We have the tendency to label our romantic partners as being
special. There's a price to pay for special love if we are not
careful. Telling a person that he or she is "special" projects
the idea that the person possesses something you do not. This
implies that you are not complete without them. Or in other
words, that you need them. Everyone holds all the potential in
the world within. Thus, our projection of being "half complete"
is a false thought of guild, for innately we know we are
connected to our source, but our Ego denies that truth.
So where do I start with this shift in perception? True Intimacy
is of the mind, not of the body. Having sex with a person does
not create intimacy in any way. You can sleep with someone, or
even live with someone, for years and not experience intimacy.
Authentic self-expression is the key to true intimacy in
romantic relationships, as well as in all other relationships.
Getting to a place where you can authentically share your
feelings and experiences is where I suggest you begin in order
to create true intimacy with someone.
At Romance Coaching, you partake in Transformational Education
that strengthens your beliefs about yourself. You might find
that you restrict yourself and not take a leap to meet new
people, or you simply find you are in a relationship but lack
intimacy. Think what you believe about yourself. Do you believe
you deserve a long lasting Romantic Relationship? What are your
thoughts about Intimacy, Affection, Love, Sex?