How Attractive Are You?
What makes a person attractive? I'm sure when most people think
of attractive, their first thoughts lean towards the physical
aspects: a certain body type, a nice smile, sparkling eyes. But
we have all met people who, while very pleasing to the eyes, had
such an awful personality that we found them anything but
attractive. This confirms that there is much more to attraction
than meets the eye.
The dictionary defines the word "attract" as follows: to arouse
or compel the interest, admiration or attention. Thinking of
attraction in that vein its easy to think of someone at work or
church that we admire or find interesting. Perhaps its the local
businessman who spends his free time coaching little league. Or
maybe its the woman at church who always has a smile and a kind
word. It could be your manager at work who is generous with
praise and not afraid to share his secrets to success. What
you'll find is all attractive people share 3 common traits.
1. Attractive people are givers. No one has ever received a
reward or recognition just because of who they were. People get
recognized because of what they give, either to their
profession, their community, or society at large. Work on
becoming someone whose focuses on giving to others. That will
naturally result in others wanting to be around you.
2. Attractive people maintain a positive perspective. No one
likes being around a grouch. Attractive people have a tendency
to always see the glass as half full. They are able to make the
best out of any situation and focus on finding solutions instead
of complaining about the problem.
3. Attractive people take really good care of themselves. Its
hard to be attractive when you are sick, or your schedule is
crammed to capacity or you have a great deal of unfinished
business in your life. Attractive people understand that if they
don't take care of themselves, they won't have anything to give
to other people. Its like being on an airplane and not putting
your oxygen mask on first. Attractive people make their mental
and physical well-being a top priority; they visit the doctor on
a regular basis, effectively manage their stress load, and take
time out for themselves.
Some of you may be thinking: "Exactly what does this have to do
with my career growth?" I believe there is a direct correlation
between how attractive you are to other people and how
successful you are in your career. Who is a company more likely
to hire, the candidate who was a lone shining star or the one
who helped his team succeed? Who is more likely to get a
promotion, the notorious complainer or the lady with the "can
do" attitude?
So how attractive are you?