Enhancing your Self-Esteem
Your self-esteem plays the biggest role in your life and
influences your thoughts, ideas and decisions. You hear time and
time again about how important having a high self-esteem is, yet
most of us tend to find ways to lower it and keep it as low as
it can possibly get. The reason behind this behavior is simply
that you do not give yourself the credit you deserve and have
not made yourself a true friend to your being. In getting to
know and love yourself, you will then determine whether or not
you are stable enough to enter in a relationship. In order to
become one with someone, you need to be whole on your own.
Let us begin with your physical being first, since that is what
society looks at most. How do you feel about your physical
appearance? Most likely, you will first point out the things you
do not like about yourself. Well, you are not alone. Almost
everyone automatically puts himself or herself down first when
looking in the mirror. Have you ever stopped and observed the
things you do like about your physical self? You probably have
not. It is time to start doing that. The next time you look at
yourself, find the physical qualities you like and accept in
your being. Why are we so hard on ourselves? Well, the truth is,
we were not born with the attitude of putting our selves down.
We adapted and taught ourselves to do so when we watched what
being perfect meant in the eyes of others. We are constantly
being flaunted with people who are thin, big on top, muscular,
small waists and long legs on television and other
advertisements, that we got convinced into believing that we
must look a certain way in order to be admired, accepted and
perfect in society. Remember, beauty and perfection is in the
eye of the beholder and you should be that first beholder.
When you look at yourself in a mirror, all you see is the
outside, but who is that person looking back at you? What does
that person like and dislike? What goals does that person have?
What are his or her hobbies? How could another being get to know
you, if you do not even know yourself? What do you have to
offer? Nothing if you lack the knowledge and information of who
you are! This is why going through a self-check is important.
You must dig deeper than your physical existence in order to
realize your true self. Enter your mind and soul and find out
what really makes you the person you are. If you have nothing to
offer as far as your being is concerned, how can you have a
relationship? You cannot!
Not all negatives thoughts are bad. Sometimes, occasional
negatives thoughts help us open doors for improvements in our
lives, which is wonderful. It is always important to remember
not to give those negative thoughts more focus though. Pay most
attention to the positive things about yourself and about the
good things that are going on in your life.
Is it hard for you to fill your head with positive thoughts most
of the time? Then you need to see what is getting in the way of
it. Do you put yourself in situations that make you neglect the
positive thoughts? Take a look at how you feel when doing
certain things, and if they keep you from feeling positive