Choose Ones that Cry
Do you have a friend who tends to well up with tears very
easily? Those tender ones who won't hurt a flea, and whom you
sometimes accuse of going overboard with generosity?
Or do you steer clear of them because their tears make you
uncomfortable? I know, I know. I've got some friends who avoid
me and are embarrassed to death if they see me tear up, and my
face gets sort of scrunchy and red. And wet. Mine's awash in
tears so quickly. Would I embarrass you?
Let's look at the ones who always have their emotions in check
and never blush or shed a tear. Somewhere, somehow, those people
have learned to cover up and hide their feelings. However, with
that, given the right circumstances and temptations, comes the
ability to be deceptive. Such a friend can fake a friendly
enthusiasm, but be plotting a revenge on a lower floor in their
soul. I used to admire them; now I stop and listen for my
intuition to reveal their true motives.
I suggest that you deliberately choose us easy-weepy
tender-hearted ones as your best friends. I'll tell you why.
The ones that cry may embarrass you in public, but only as long
as you allow yourself to feel marked out. You will always know
what they are thinking and feeling, and generally it will be in
your favour, rather than their own. These tender ones empathize
with and cheer the loser, and sometimes you feel like a loser,
right?
People with a tender conscience are able to hear the voice of
God, and are the most likely to experience His angels carrying
and protecting them. You're safer in their presence than on your
own.
Those with a clear conscience before God will be happier and
content with little things, and not so likely to be demanding of
you. It also means you'll seldom find them bitter and thus
withering in their bones, and drying you up with them.
Be unashamed when your friends cry...it's a good sign they are
not afraid to be vulnerable, for only the vulnerable allows
themselves the luxury of loving and being loved. They also know
intuitively that if you want to handle roses you'll have to
accept some thorn scratches.
Smile, don't fight the tear trembling in your own eye, and join
in the anguish or joys of the moment.
If you're shopping around for new friends because one has
wounded or disappointed you, go among the kind, gentle people,
and watch for one who weeps or laughs easily, is open and
vulnerable, and with a clear, tender conscience. Now show that
one the same kind of loyal care, openness, and identify with
this one's pain or joy.
Blessings on your new friendship!