10 Tips On How To Get That Girl
1. RECOGNIZE AND UTILIZE YOUR STRENGTHS. Everyone has a special
skill, whether it is humor, conversational ability, or athletic
prowess. Think about your number one strength and incorporate it
into your dating. What you look like is not of supreme
importance.
2.GET HELP If you are not confidant, and need to get help, then
utilize your friends. Choose one that you think is successful,
and ask for some tips. Some people find the socialising scene
easier than others'. If you are having real trouble try asking a
girl who is a friend to go out on a practise date. Then ask her
what went wrong.?
3.REMEMBER THAT SOCIAL AND DATING SKILLS ARE NOT LEARNT IN A
CLASSROOM Practise your skills regarding interaction with other
people. Try not to brag all the time and listen to others. Try
and bring out the best in others and make them warm to your
personality.
4. BEING RESPONSIVE TO THE NEEDS OF OTHERS IS NOT WEAKNESS. You
are not a wimp if you are aware of the times when other people
need your support. We have come a long way since Men dragged
women off by their hair to a cave. In a complex world girls need
more than physical protection, and the provision, of the odd
beast to eat, they do have emotional needs as well.
5. LEARN THE ART OF ASKING MEANINGFUL QUESTIONS Many men mix up
the difference between a statement and a qquestion, yet the
difference is very basic and grasping the options that you can
give the girls is a way to improving your relationships. Some
men understand the difference for instance "whew it sure is hot,
is a statement you are stating a fact and gives someone else
little to reply to. How hot is this, aren't you hot? is a
question asking for a response.
I have often listened to young men and wonder how they can get
it wrong? They fire a series of questions off so fast, it is
like being interrogated.
Ask a question, and then give a short answer, that's
interesting, and then maybe follow it up with "Why do you feel
like that?" Learn to incorporate the questions into smooth
conversation.
6. UNDERSTAND THAT YOU MUST TAKE RISKS Find the little things
that you think are romantic, and act on them. This is fairly
hard for some men, they are taught that real men don't express
their feelings, you will appear weak if you do so. To be
self-expressive you must be able to express your feelings. It
may all go horribly wrong and you may hurt someone but the more
you practise the easier it becomes.
7 BE UNPREDICTABLE. Don't always do what you think women expect.
A bunch of flowers is nice but too often is 'old hat' these
days. Think of something different to do that will be fun for
both of you. This does not need to be expensive, a candle lit
dinner is wonderful, but there are other ways of doing something
different. Women love dancing, and if you can't afford to go out
dancing play some romantic music at home, and relax.
8. COOK HER A MEAL. How special does a woman feel when her guy
has gone to the trouble to shop, and prepare food for her. It
does not have to be a five course gourmet dinner. Start with
something simple like a salad, and even if you can't cook,
practise one main course. Women think this is very romantic, and
are quite likely to be bowled over by the gesture. Even if it
does not taste that great, she will appreciate the thought.
9 BE AWARE OF THE GIRL'S BODY LANGUAGE Body language is quite
complex, but some things are easy. Practise on your friends. You
should be able to recognize what sort of a general mood someone
is in by the way that they hold themselves. Look at how relaxed
people are looking when they laugh, they look as though they
have not a care in the world. In contrast when people are
holding themselves together, they look tense, and strung up. How
many times have you seen a girl out and she is yawning, which is
a sure sign she is bored, but on top of that she is giving men
the brush off. Learn to read body language, and give yourself a
fighting chance of success.
10. NEVER UNDER ESTIMATE THE POWER OF A SENSE OF HUMOR. Women
are real suckers for men that make them laugh. Laughter reduces
tension and makes them feel more relaxed. It takes some of the
stress out of getting to know someone. Even if it means telling
little stories against yourself. By this I do not mean put
yourself down, but tell a story when something you did backfired
on you in a funny way.