"What Women Should Not Say On A First Date"
Women have a very distinct advantage over the male species, they
eventually work out how they think. However, first dates can
still be a minefield, and certain things are best left unsaid.
"MY SISTER IS GETTING MARRIED IN SIX WEEKS AND MY MOTHER WANTS
TO SEE A DOUBLE WEDDING" If you say this, not only will you make
the guy run to another planet, but you may frighten him
sufficiently to have a cardiac arrest. You may even be talking
to a guy who wants to settle down, but this is a definite no no,
on the first few dates. Even if he wants a long term
relationship, this is the best possible way to pour cold water
over any budding romance.
"YOU MUST COME AND MEET THE FAMILY" Don't rush the guy and back
him into a corner, men react like feral cats to this sort of
pressure, they strike out - far into the future with another
girl on their arm.
"I AM SOLEY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE CARE OF MY PARENTS" Leave this
information for a later time, if you do not want to scare
someone off. The guy may be a caring sensitive guy, but they may
well feel trapped.
"MY EX AND I USED TO COME HERE ALL THE TIME" Nowadays most
people accept that they are not going to have a single
relationship, that will last their whole lives, in most cases,
only Adam and Eve did that. If you are over the age of sixteen,
chances are you have a history, but the first few dates are not
the time to mention this fact.
"I AM OLD FASHIONED AND I EXPECT MY MAN TO PAY FOR EVERYTHING"
Firstly you are being territorial too early, and you are laying
a claim to someone you have just met, that is bad enough. Then
you compound the error by clearly stating you are looking for
someone who will always pay. This information will come out
eventually if that is the way you feel, but try and keep it
under wraps, for as long as you can.
"MY KIDS EXPECT ME TO BE HOME AT 10.00 P.M." You are either
ready to date or you are not. This statement says that your
children are more important than your social life. Accept the
fact that you are entitled to a life of your own, and that you
are not doing your kids any favors by putting them first all the
time. Draw on your family and friends and find another
babysitter. Don't reinforce the statement that your kids are
controlling your life.
"WOMEN ARE BETTER DRIVERS' THAN MEN, AND I WANT TO DO ALL THE
DRIVING." Oh - a control freak. Men like to think that they are
in the driving seat. By taking control on your first date, you
are emasculating him, right at the beginning. Most men are happy
to go into abdication mode and let you take over but at a later
stage of your relationship.
"I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT WOMEN SHOULD WORK ONCE THEY ARE MARRIED."
You may as well say I want to settle down immediately and have a
meal ticket for the rest of your life. Even if you are talking
to someone that does believe that married women should not work,
on the first date this is taking things way too far.
"I AM A TEE TOTALLER, AND HATE TO SEE PEOPLE HAVE A BEER"
Lighten up and live and let live. Your date is nervous and might
want a beer. That does not necessarily make him a raving
alcoholic. If you are determined to take that hard line
attitude, then sort it out before the date stage so that it does
not become an issue.
"CAN YOU LEND ME SOME MONEY" This statement does not reinforce
the idea that you may want to see your date, because you enjoy
his company. If you are going to be short of money, and it does
happen to everyone at some stage of their life, but don't go out
and lose the chance of making a relationship with someone
because you need money. Try and get it from friends or someone
that knows you better.
"I WANT SEX" There are two reasons for this - don't waste time,
arrange it first if that is what you want. Dual standards men
can be immature in their appraisal and prejudge a woman who
wants sex. It is what they want but who knows what they think,
you may be classified as someone who is only interested in one
night stands. There are plenty of web sites for women who want
only sex, try there first. This does not even mean to say that
you should not have sex, on the first date. Give the guy a
chance to do the running.