WAYS TO MAKE SURE THAT YOUR FIRST DATE IS SAFE.
1. MAKE SURE YOU HAVE SPOKEN ON THE TELEPHONE FIRST. When you
use internet sites to date, make sure that you talk on the
telephone before meeting the date. If you feel uncomfortable, be
sure to get their number and call using your cell phone or use
your local telephone blocking code to hide your identity. 2.GO
PUBLIC Always meet in a public place, so that if anything goes
pear-shaped, than you have the security of other people being
present. However, to meet someone for the first time in your
home or their's just piles the pressure on. It is easier to
retreat from a public place, than from a house. Let someone else
know how long you are out for and how long you intend to be.
That way your location can be monitored. That means not moving
on to another place, without informing someone, even if you have
to go to the toilet and discreetly use a mobile phone. 3 LIMIT
YOUR ALCOHOL INTAKE Control the amount of alcohol that you
drink, so that you are sure you are in control. This probably
applies equally for men and women, but for different reasons.
Alcohol is not a stimulant, it is a depressant. It slows down
your response time which means that you will not react in your
usuall way to unexpected situations. It may mean that your alarm
bell will not ring, when it should. A big 'no no' for women is
that it lowers your inhibitions and you can be laying yourself
open to unnecessary sexual pressure. Alcohol also makes people
feel more confidant and extrovertive, but for men you don't
necessarily want to look like a 'dipso'. 4.REMAIN IN CONTROL
Your personal security is important on a first date. Being in
control of the situation is imperative. Use your common sense,
and trust your intincts, they may well be incorrect, but better
to be safe than sorry. 5.LISTEN CAREFULLY TO POTENTIAL
INCONSISTENCIES Look for inconsistent answers regarding your
dates background background, status, profession, etc. This may
indicate they are not who they say they are, or even worse,
married! If you feel you want to bale out, don't pretend. Being
straight to the point makes a clearer impression than fudged
excuses.
6.STAY ANONYMOUS FOR AWHILE Most online dating services use a
double-blind system to allow members to exchange correspondence
between each other. This allows members to communicate, but
without knowing each other's email addresses or telephone
numbers. Going ahead cautiously may stop you from meeting that
creep.
7.REMAIN REALISTIC Prince (or Princess) Charming may very well
indeed be waiting for you online, but you should also set your
expectations just a little bit lower. Most of your dates will go
nowhere. Don't believe that everyone who shows interest is worth
you investing your time. You do not have to settle for second
best.
8.DON'T TRY TO MIRROR ANOTHERS PACE. If your date does not
respect the pace you wish to progress at, then you should not
fast track your pace to keep up with them. Proceed Slowly and
Listen to Your Instincts
9. WATCH OUT FOR WARNING SIGNS Most people are on their best
behaviour in the early stages of dating. How you are treated on
the first few dates, will be a yard stick for future dates. If
you are not shown respect on the first few dates, then it is not
going to happen later. If your date is rude towards other people
such as waiters, then he will be rude to you sooner or later.
10.DON'T TALK ABOUT THINGS YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT. You will end
up with egg on your face if you start talking about something
you know absolutely 'zilch' about. If you do not know about
something be honest and say that you don't know. No one has an
interest in everything, just admit it and move the conversation
on to something light, or funny.