Pure Seduction - How To Flirt His Pants Off, Literally
Don't you just hate it when your best friend goes out to the
Chinese groceries store or to the Laundry Mart just two blocks
away and half an hour later comes back with three telephone
numbers and a dinner date with some hot guy when all you get is
"not interested" signals even from guys you'd normally think of
as straight "A" losers.
What about those women who never seem to remain single for more
than three months? You know the ones who slip out of one rich
dude's arms into the life of another gorgeous humanitarian with
the heart of gold? What is it that some women have over guys
that the rest of us don't have? What is their secret? What is
that they do that makes guys want to be with them?
Their secret is that they let guys know that they are interested
and available. While the rest of us are "playing hard to get" or
throwing ourselves at anyone who happens to look our direction,
these "hot" women know exactly what it is they want and don't
hesitate in letting a man know that he is exactly what she
wants.
But how you might ask. How do I let a guy know I am into him
without looking foolish if he is not into you? Most of us fold
in when we see someone we're interested in because we assume
that they're probably looking for someone young and drop dead
gorgeous. But having worked with many singles over the years, I
have almost come to the conclusion that the "better" looking you
are the more hard work you have to do. No man will come near you
unless you make it incredibly obvious that you want him to.
Apparently there are ways to say "I am available" without
looking desperate, coming on too strong or as cheap and sleazy.
YES!!! There are ways to stand out of a crowd and still retain
your sense of "dignity". It is called flirting with attitude.
Research has shown that there are certain qualities that make a
woman stand out even without the high heels or the mini black
dress. Guys we're told have biological "sex" radars and can
literally sense the "sexiest' woman as soon as she sets foot in
a room.
Incredible isn't it? While we women are into getting to know him
- his sign in the zodiac line up, his favourite colour, his
deepest fear, his mother's maiden name and all that kind of
other stuff - men's radars are in the air picking up signals
from some hot mama who just stepped into the room. If you want
to get him - and keep him - you apparently have to learn to
speak his language.
I have listed here the top five qualities that were volunteered
by the men and confirmed by some "hot" women. I have used all of
them quite a few times and gotten 150% OVER-KILL. Even if they
do not get you the man of your dreams - immediately - they will
make your life a little more fab and dating truly a jungle game.
A woman with the sex appeal that oozes from every pore of her
skin has got these qualities, apparently:
1. She looks like she is having fun. Being predictable and
boring is a cardinal sin when it comes to dating - and all
relationships. Whether we like it or not, people are very
attracted to other people who look like they are enjoying
themselves. A woman who isn't afraid of life drags everyone with
her. Men look at her and want a piece of "HER".
Develop an upbeat and positive attitude and get in touch with
and be aware of your own sexual energy. Beyond that develop a
fun and a child-like quality about you and share a bit of that
with the rest of the world. A little "playful teasing" is one
great way to arouse interest. When it's obvious that you should
start acting like a clingy bug instead just lean back as if
you've got all the time in the world. This can take seduction to
the next level...
2. She is confident but not self-absorbed to the extent that no
one and nothing else matters but her. She is mindful of how she
looks but not obsessed with her looks. In other words she is
"hot".
You do not have to be classically beautiful by societal
standards to be inexplicably hot. It all has to do with the
perception you have about yourself and all the ways in which you
display yourself. Loving yourself in a healthy way is actually
an important factor in convincing others that you are one hot
mama.
3. She makes someone feel like they're are the only person in
the room who matters. She looks him in the eye, really listens,
calls him by his name and focuses on what he is saying.
What more can I say, the eyes have it. Let your eyes peak deep
into his soul and move him like he's never been moved before.
Use your fingers to draw attention to your eyes and to keep his
gaze focused on you - and you alone. When the exchange is taking
place in cramped conditions, simply touch your nose or gently
rub your cheek while one finger points at either eye. Power gaze
him down.
4. She touches a lot. When someone touches us, we like them even
more. If you're stingy with your affection others assume you are
cold, hard to know - and uptight.
If you are already familiar with the the "mirroring" technique,
add the "touch-anchoring" technique to it and he will never
figure out why three weeks later he rubs his hands against his
sleeves and still smells your perfume even when he has on a
different shirt from the one he wore that "fate-full" night.
This touching extends to touching yourself. Touch yourself to
draw attention to your most flattering features - and when
combined with looking at him in the eyes - Houston we have a
problem!!!
5. She knows her body and is aware of it. I am talking
body-talk. If you've been getting the looks but no action, you
probably need tune up your body language; the way you walk, what
you're wearing and the vibes and waves you send.
Got the Dolly Parton cleavage going on try the "Oh! My God, you
are hilarious" hand -over-boobs thingy whenever he says
something funny. And laugh deeply so that those "babies" hiccup
like an earthquake rocking the Himalayas. And if you are Beyonce
bootilcious, going to the lady's room as often as you can is
actually a good thing. Seductively turning with a sweeping
glance that ends at your junkside and then rolling and bouncing
what your mama gave you can wreak bloody havoc on even the most
composed of them.
Flirting really is quite easy if you think of it as soft
marketing and all it takes is the right attitude and a
willingness to take a few risks and make things happen. Next
time you are out and get the urge to flirt his pants off,
literally, be impulsive and try something unpredictable and
wildly interesting.
And hey, let me know how it goes...