The Best Sexual Positions: The Top 5 Mistakes Most Guys Make
One of the many challenges men have is to decide on what
positions to use when getting booty. The biggest fears are that
the woman will get bored with the "same old, same old" and as a
result lose interest in sex. So the question becomes, what
are the best sexual positions?
The best way to explain this is to talk about what NOT to do.
With that in mind, I'll now talk about the top five mistakes
guys make when it comes to sexual positions, so that way you
won't continue making them.
Position Mistake 1: Imitating anything seen in a porn
movie. This is probably the biggest reason that guys fail
with sexual positions. Inexperienced guys think porn is a good
model because they see studs banging beautiful broads, and...
well, they just don't know any better. The problem is that
sexual positions in those sorts of movies are meant to display a
good scene for viewers, not to maximize pleasure for the actors.
And in fact, one of the WORST positions for clitoral and vaginal
stimulation is when the woman puts her ankles on your shoulders.
With her pelvis bent back that far, she can feel pain in her
cervix if you push in too far. Plus it's a position that puts
pressure. (If you ever have a chance to go behind the scenes and
watch the making of an adult movie, you'll see how quickly the
mood gets killed when the actress keeps having to stop the scene
to go to the bathroom!)
Position Mistake 2: Trying too hard to keep your weight off
the woman, in any position. To a woman, sex is a way to get
closer to her man. She loves it when he leans on the underside
of her thighs. So here's a tip for you to try... Next time
you're having sex with your woman (while you're engaged in
actual intercourse, that is), get more of your weight on her.
You see, during sex, almost every woman enjoys feeling her man's
body pressed hard against her.
So how much weight should you put on her? Make it enough so that
after you come, and the sexual frenzy dissipates, your woman
will tell you that she feels like she's being smooshed. Of
course, do this within limits! If you're on top off her grinding
her pubic bone for too long, it can feel painful for her.
But the bottom line is that many, many women like to be
pressured by at least some of the man's weight. So save the
gentlemanly sex for the royal family's women!
Position Mistake 3: Letting the woman do all the work when
she's on top. For virtually every woman, sex is mostly a
passive activity. So by being the motionless beta male, you
destroy the whole purpose of sex for her, which is to open
herself up to you penetrating into her body.
Position Mistake 4: Being a wimp. A lot of guys have read
too many "Men are From Mars"-type books and think women like it
if you ask permission for everything and let them take the lead.
Be the alpha male instead and just "do it." Flip her over, move
her here and there. Be aggressive and even toss her about like a
rag doll when you want to change positions, and... she'll LOVE
it! And don't worry about it. If something is going on that the
woman doesn't like, she'll let you know.
Position Mistake 5: Thinking the trickier positions are
better. You don't need to be upside down, hanging from a
lamp, and doing something crazy. Just be normal. An old standby
like the missionary (man on top, woman lying on her back) can be
the best sexual position.
Tricky positions are just frustrating for everybody and often
kill the mood because there's too much "where should I put my
arm?"... and not enough "let's just have fun exploring."