How to talk a partner into swinging
When you're first thinking about swinging, you want to ask
yourself why it is that you're interested. Are you looking for
more sex? This isn't a good reason, although it does happen.
Swinging isn't about more action or getting to have sex with
other people without consequence. It's about sharing a beautiful
part of your life-your partner-with other people. It's about
living out your fantasies and helping your partner live out his
or hers. Swinging is really about learning to move past your
inhibitions and exploring the side of you that yearns to be free.
And you have to have a strong partnership in place already to
start with swinging. If your marriage or relationship is kind of
rocky and you think that this might help-you're wrong. This can
complicate your already difficult issues.
But if you feel that your relationship is rock hard, then it's
time to talk about swinging.
The big talk
Sit your partner down when you're good and relaxed. Make sure
that you don't have any distractions or anywhere to be. You may
want to stay at home for this conversation or at least somewhere
that you both feel comfortable and open.
Be honest and talk about the things that you have been thinking
about. Tell him or her about swinging if they don't already know
about it, and ask what their opinion is. You may be surprised to
hear that they too are interested and have begun to fantasize
about it. But they just didn't know how to approach you.
Well then, let's stop wasting time, shall we?
Be specific about what you want from swinging and what you want
to do. Do you want sex with someone else, or do you want to just
be in the same room with another couple?
Letting those fantasies out
This might be a long conversation that stretches over months.
Go to local swingers clubs to find out more information. You may
even be about to talk with an experienced swinger couple about
their experiences.
Search online for other swinging couples and find out what they
love about swinging and how they got started. Or just search for
information. http://www.swingingresources.com is the perfect
place to get started.
Be specific. This is no time to be shy. Are there limits to your
swinging? Are their particular kinds of couples that you're
looking for? And then there's the dreaded worry of a partner who
just isn't interested in swinging. At all.
If you're in a solid relationship, then this shouldn't cause you
to have any problems from just bringing it up. And you need to
respect your partner's wishes about swinging. If he or she
doesn't want to do it, then drop it. Maybe they will change
their minds, but that is not up to you. Of course, you may also
want to talk about the option of you playing with swinging
couples by yourself.
Swinging is a lifestyle that celebrates partnership and
commitment to each other to making each other happy. Release
that fantasy to your partner and maybe you'll be swinging soon.