Premature Ejaculation

What is it? Premature ejaculation is when the man's ejaculation occurs before desired or too quick during intercourse to satisfy their partners. This is relative: what can be considered quick for some might be normal to others. Since it usually takes from 15-30 minutes of stimulation for a woman to reach an orgasm during intercourse, ejaculating before that timeframe creates a problem, where the woman's needs are not satisfied. You could always pleasure her other ways, but I'm sure it would be much more fulfilling if both partners can reach their orgasms through intercourse. It could be caused from the expectation of being with a woman you wanted to have sex with for a while. It's normal in this case that the first time, and maybe a couple of times after that, the ejaculation comes quick after starting to have sex. However, if it keeps happening, then it could become a problem, and there are solutions for it. You would say, how quick is too quick? If you can't wait and ejaculate before your partner does and can't control it, it's too quick. Causes: - Psychological: Anxiety, stress, guilt, over excitement - Physical: Excess of masturbation (yes, it teaches your body how to reach orgasm more easily), testosterone imbalance, urinary tract infections and nervous system dysfunction. - Drugs: caffeine, over the counter cold pills and cigarettes have been linked to premature ejaculation. Yet another reason to quit smoking. The tips on how to eliminate premature ejaculations are given below. They're free, effective and guaranteed to help you control your ejaculation and with time and practice you will be able to ejaculate only when you want to. 1. The squeeze method: This technique involves gently squeezing the base or end of the penile shaft and stopping sexual stimulation until the urge to ejaculate passes. The squeezing can be done by either the man or his partner. So you stimulate yourself (or have your partner stimulate you) until you're about to ejaculate. Then you squeeze just below the the head of your penis, mainly using your index and thumb hard enough to make you partially loose the erection. While you do this, tighten your pelvic floor muscle and hold. This is called a Kegel exercise, when you contract the pelvic muscles. The kegel exercise is simple: "flex" the pelvic muscle as if you are holding back from or stopping urination. Release both, and stimulate yourself again, and do the squeeze and flex again. You can do this for as long as you want, maybe 3, 4 times or as many as you can take before actually ejaculating. The goal of this technique is to teach the man to become aware of the sensations leading up to orgasm, and then begin to control and delay his orgasm on his own. When you learn this, all it will take is for you to do the kegel flex exercise when having sex for your body to recognize it's not time to ejaculate yet. After you have managed it, you can add lubrication to the stimulation and practice it that way, which will be harder. It takes time, and you might spill the first time or 2, but you need to be patient. 2. The stop-start method: I could be done with a partner or while masturbating. This technique simply means to bring yourself near the point of no return, and stopping all stimulation before it's too late. For some men, this includes removal of the penis from the vagina, but it's not necessary. Then as you feel you regain control, begin stimulating again (whether you're masturbating, or your partner giving you a hand job, them giving you oral, or just normal intercourse). This procedure is repeated three times before allowing yourself to ejaculate on the fourth time. You can repeat this 3 times a week until you gain control of your ejaculation. Then, progress to stop-start with lubrication, although this you probably only need it if masturbating, since while having intercourse you'll probably have all the lubrication you need. After you've managed that, then try intercourse with the woman on top and the man not moving. You again instruct her to stop moving when you sense you're losing control. Eventually, instead of stopping and starting, you can just slow down when you're about to ejaculate until you regain control. These 2 techniques are good to use every time you masturbate, instead of going for a quick one like usual. Some other simple things you can do to help you control your ejaculation: - Wear a condom if you usually don't, sometimes this is all it takes to help you last longer, since the sensation is less. - Changing sexual positions every so often gives you a little time to cool off, and also you can find one where you have more control on and can hold it longer. - Masturbate first. As simple as it sounds, if you masturbate first, or have your partner to make you ejaculate some other way before intercourse, the second time you should be able to last longer. The tips above have been reported to help about 95% of men to prolong their lovemaking. Remember to be sure to contact your health provider if you feel that you have a severe premature ejaculation problem.