Sexual Energy!
Sexual Energy! - by Joseph Ghabi
How open are we when it comes to talking about sex? We are all
so captivated, yet intimidated and shy about sex. It always
seems to play in the back of our own minds. My question is just
how much are we appreciative of our sexuality?
Whilst growing up we are not taught a great deal about the truth
behind our own sexuality. The reason being that society has not
allowed us to experiment our true sexuality and what that really
means to its full extent. This seems to be so, especially where
religion is concerned. There is always the conflict about
sexuality with religions on the whole!
What is it that we are afraid of when we come to talk about our
sexuality? How well do you communicate your needs and preference
of your sexuality with your partner? Or do you even know what
your sexual needs and preferences are? How acceptant are you of
our own sexuality?
To begin with, we live in a society which has been based upon
many old thoughts and ideas that are really no longer
functional. These 'ideas' have been, in many instances, dictated
to us by our own religions and the circumstances we grew up in.
Sex has grown to become something we are fearful of in both our
conscious and sub-conscious minds. So much so that we are no
longer aware of how to approach or handle the subject! In
reality, we should not allow this to be our obstacle or a
setback in sexual life. We must now take the initiative to try
to figure out our own sexuality.
What is Sexuality? Sexuality is defined as the individual
inclination of any human soul for their sexual preference.
Sexuality is an individual, shared and energy-centered affair.
Through time we have allowed ourselves to become accustomed to a
set of rules in terms of how other people view and judge us when
it comes to our own sexuality. What is right and wrong?
In order to embrace sexuality as a whole, you must first
identify your own sexual preferences. I believe this is one of
the most important factors in this subject and is very important
that you discover it for yourself and accept it as something
that is a part of you and not something you should be afraid of.
Are you homosexual, heterosexual, bi-sexual or whatever else you
can possibly be sexually? Regardless of your sexual orientation,
sex is still an individual, shared and energy-centered affair.
Don't you think? Both men and women alike are sometimes having
problem in identifying their own sexuality. Let's be honest
here, even from time to time we do have the tendency of
thinking, at least, somewhere in the back of our minds what it
would be like to be with a partner of the same sex. Being
continuously evolving human souls we have already experimented
different past lives being either of the sexes in order to bring
our soul to grow having balanced experiences with both the male
and female energies.
I believe the problem concerning sex in our society, especially
the way we look at and judge each other by stereotyping someone
by their sexual preference is wrong. Let's take a gay or lesbian
human soul for example, why do we insist upon stereotyping them
from the crowd? Oh! I forgot they are not normal! Well according
to what or to whom? How do we define what is really 'NORMAL'?
Yeah now I remember, it was according to biology and our human
reproduction system and also those attitudes we learnt from
religion. Why do we need to reproduce? There are numerous issues
that influence us in terms of religious belief and in many cases
such religious issues thrive upon forcing fear and guilt upon us
for embracing our sexuality openly and by using that fear and
guilt it enables that religion to keep control of people and it
grows as we pass those beliefs down to our children and them to
their children and throughout the many generations. That alone
helps the religion sustain its own growth by reinforcing our
beliefs to those of their own belief system. Then is it
basically for our own advantage or for the advantage of the
belief system?
Let me define the different aspects of sexuality which exist
within their three levels.
First, sex is an individuality act. We have been taught since
early childhood and throughout our upbringing by some belief
system that exists out there to be ashamed, fearful, un-easy and
that it is against God's wishes for us to embrace our individual
sexuality in terms of us understanding our body and our own
sexuality. Sex is energy, God is energy and we are part of that
energy. We are brought up being told not to enjoy our individual
acts of sexuality because it is dirty. We were always made to
feel guilty about doing it. When I talk of this 'individual act
of sexuality', what I am referring to is the act of
masturbation. Why have we been deprived of expressing our own
personal sexual needs as an individual? The main reasons for
this does relate to what I stated previously. Our individual
sexual act is a natural phenomenon for either men or women and
this can not only provide us with personal satisfaction, but it
can also serve as an energy release system which helps us have a
clearer mind which will enable us to conduct our life and growth
more effectively in this life time. There is absolutely nothing
wrong with bringing some joy and pleasure to yourself at any
private time you wished to. By doing so, you will help bring
awareness to yourself about your self and your sexual needs and
desires when you are sharing yourself with your partner when you
are in a relationship.
Second, sex is a shared act. So, we can go as far as we can with
identifying our own sexuality. However, this will also bring us
to the fact that what happens between two people sexually is
also their own act of privacy, regardless if it is classed as
being 'normal' within our own belief system. When two people are
engaged in an act of intimacy between themselves, we have no
right to judge them and in reality, their affairs are not even
our business, therefore, we shouldn't care! But why do we
persist in letting it become our affair by judging and
criticizing those people? The answer is very simple, because we
are border and feel we have 'no life' of our own, so we use
other people's affairs to fulfill that boredom and need to
gossip. Let's see! Why should it be that Britney Spears, for
example, sex life is so important to everyone? Does she owe us
anything that she must make her private life public to the whole
world, just because she is a well known singer? Why on earth do
we feel the need to learn about her sexual preference? She can
sing and dance and entertain us very nicely, is that not enough
to keep us occupied? Why we don't question President Bush about
his sexual preference? How about the reporters who are bringing
us the juice about Britney's sexual habits? How comfortable are
they in telling us about their own sexual habits? How about you,
the reader? Are you open to telling us about your sexual habits?
Or you just want to hear someone else's and judge them according
to what you hear, regardless if the story is true or not? What
makes the famous people's gossip, particularly their sexuality,
so important to us? Aren't they just like you and I, being human
souls, regardless of if they are famous or not? Sex is a shared
act between where, in the majority of times, takes place between
two people and it is not the business of yours or mine to judge
that. Unless of course you are ready and prepared to 'spill your
guts' and talk about yourself for a change!
Third, sex is an energy-centered act. More and more often these
days we are seeing so many different sex websites and the
popularity of these sites is reaching an all time high! This is
because our understanding of sex and sexuality is all wrong! It
is not only an act in itself between two people. It is not just
for reproduction. Ideally sex it should more open that people
should be at ease to talk about and express their own feelings
rather than suppressing them. Sex is individual, shared between
two people and it is also the act of opening our sexual energy.
In reality sex is a major opening for us to learn more about
ourselves on different levels.
Sex is an energy-centered act and what I mean by this is, when
two souls become involved a relationship of growth together, sex
becomes the main source of exchanging their energy with each
other. To attain that level of energy exchange to happen at a
soul level it requires both people involved in the relationship
to accept that growth. It cannot work with input from only one
of the couple. Sexual energy is about dropping all your
reservations, dropping all ideology, dropping all your walls and
basically opening all of your gates for your partner. It is
about seeing yourself as the image of your partner's eye when
two souls are joined in their sexual action and performance
together. You are the image of your partner and it is through
that image you grow.
In order to create an energetically established relationship you
must be in the right relationships with the right partner in the
first place. How many of us today are with the right partner and
for the right reasons? How many of us are strong and wise enough
that they do not allow their past experiences to interfere in
their new ones? How many of us have the courage to accept and
allow a new experience to take place in their lives with a new
partner they have met? How many of us openly accept our partner
for being the way they are and not the way in which we want them
be? How many of us are willing to take that extra plunge into
some unknown and unfamiliar territory?
Our universe consists of an abundance of energies of which are
in existence all around us. These energies exist as the people
we meet in our daily routines, the objects we touch to our state
of mind and well being. Sexual energy is connected to the
vastness of energy which is available for our access and at our
own disposal. Why don't we make full use of these energies? The
answer is very simple! Again, it is our narrow minded, 'human'
way of thinking. How many of us believe that if things in this
world cannot be proven by science, then it means they do not
exist? How many of us believe and react to new opinions or
observations "That's not the way I learned from my religious
teachings!" How many of us believe that our parents dismissed
such theories on the conclusion that they do not fit within the
traditions and family belief systems and perhaps they were
concerned with what other people would SAY about them if they
thought that way.
Learn how to open your gates and drop your human shield without
any creating expectations of your partner for what they will do
or don't do for or to YOU. Do not bring any of your old baggage
into new relationships. It is not the same energy. This is not
the same person you are involved with now. Until you learn how
to do this, you will risk running into the same patterns of your
old relationship situations. Learn to let go, forgive yourself,
others and move in your life.
How successfully we can build our sexual energy in our
relationships reflects how much we are willing to try our best
to bring comfort to our partner. This requires cooperation
between both partners without one being left behind. The "ME,
ME, ME..." style of attitude will defeat the purpose of this
intention and we will always find ourselves in stagnation until
we learn the relationship is not all about us. We are or at
least 'should be' the reflection of ourselves in our partner.
The more we invest in our partner, the more we will see that
investment being returned to us, but multiplied. Do not allow
fear to interfere for there is no place for it here. When you
invest fully in your partner and know you have done your best to
do so, you should never be hurt moving on after the time comes
for your relationship to end. You will never feel regret or
guilt by saying "what if I did this or that?" There is no "what
if?" in our life. Only, when you know you have invested your
best into making it work, there is only "I did my best to make
the best I could've of out my experience in that relationship"
and with that you will be able to move on in peace into a new
relationship experience. When one partner is not ready to invest
there is nothing you can do. However, if you see that they are
trying to do their best to make things work, then help, but
without abusing or taking advantage of them.
So, on a final note, invest in your relationships, invest in
exploring your sexuality and invest in your growth because in
the end it is all about you! You are always the winner at the
end. Just think of that for a moment!
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