How do I reach an orgasm?
Is it OK to fake an Orgasm?
Is there something wrong with a woman that has not experienced
an
orgasm?
These are a couple of questions that I have been getting asked
more
and more, so I thought why not address them through my articles?
As
much as I have written this for my ladies, men you can benefit
from
reading this little bit of info also!
There is nothing physically wrong with women that have not
experienced
the big O! They simply just have not learned how. It is very
much a
mental exercise as well as physical. Way back when..., we were
taught
that it was a bad thing to touch ourselves (masturbate). That
was a
big wrong turn for a lot of women. I have read a lot of letters
from
women that tell me that they were in their late 20`s before they
ever
experienced an orgasm, one that they would consider an orgasm
anyway.
This is why I express over and over, ladies learn about YOUR
BODY!
Orgasms are very connected to ones mind when dealing with the
female.
If you are worried or tired or feeling a bit at odds with your
partner, that door is definitely going to be locked, even nailed
shut.
It will take some work and patience to find the key to open up
that
mind trap.
Too many women spend way too much time worrying about orgasms.
Worry
only puts up the walls that will totally disable your mind to
relax
and float. Think of watching and waiting for water to boil. By
the
time it has boiled you have lost interest. Or when you are
trying to
call someone and the line is forever busy, that just frustrates
you to
no end. If you would have just carried on with something else at
the
time, the water would have boiled before you knew it, the phone
line
would be cleared, and you would be frustration free! Orgasms
work in
very much the same way. Do not think about them. Do prepare for
them,
feel your body call them, desire them, fantasize, open your mind
up to
a total zone of passion. Pure thoughtless passion!
Some women feel that if they do not orgasm, their partner will
feel
that they have failed them, or vice verse. (GUILT) There is
absolutely no room for guilt or shyness in the arena of sex!
This is
one of the reasons women FAKE the O! It does not do any real
physical
harm to fake most things in life. The only one that is losing
out
though, is you. You are fooling no one but yourself. Then you
end up
feeling even worse because you pretended at a time when you
should be
open and real.
There is also the time thing. Women are in need of more
stimulation
and time to relax and be able to find their zone. Men tend to
think
that five minutes is just super...NOT...so ladies this is where
communication comes into play. You must tell your man that NO, I
am
not there yet. I know this sounds bossy, but most men hardly
ever have
a problem telling the women what to do in bed and when to not
stop.
Also ladies please tell your man to do like the yellow pages
commercial, "Let your fingers do the walking". Women like and
need the
finger play. Also ladies if your man is just down there
asap...tell
him to slow down. This can also throw women off when they are
feeling
rushed.
When you are close to your partner and feel that sex is in the
air,
enjoy even just the kiss at first. I mean really enjoy just the
kiss.
Allow your body to warm up and get your juices flowing. Or
really feel
his touches, and listen to your partners voice when he says your
name.
If he never says your name, tell him too. He will oblige
immediately.
Tell him you want to hear him admire your body. A women on the
norm
has a hard time verbalizing what she likes. This is just because
we
were raised to be nice girls. Well, TALK! You will be surprised
at how
much more relaxed you become and excited once you can talk to
your
partner about touching where and how. Tell your partner to join
you in
that little game. A women's body will react very nicely if you
just
allow the feelings of a kiss to penetrate you.
Another turn on for you ladies is to touch yourself while your
partner
watches. Yes, you will love it once you allow him into your
world. He
will not say no to that request. To see or hear how excited he
gets
watching you enjoying your body is another very big turn on for
you.
This is also a very good way to keep your mind away from the,
"will I
or won`t I" question. Think of anything but the ultimate O!
G-spot orgasms are pretty easy to reach. We can get there as
easy as
men have the ability to get hard. To get there just tell your
man to
do the, "walking". Or take his hand and guide him down to where
your
body is wanting his touch. G-Spot orgasms feel nice and they are
basically our juice fountain, that is when we get very wet. This
is
when your body prepares for penetration.
It is the clitoral Orgasm that most women are after. Those ones
will
shake your ground. But again, these are mind connected. I will
say I
am speaking for the norm of women. Every women is different to a
degree, but we are basically after the same thing. We all want
to feel
that intense vibration and the total body rush that runs through
our
body. It is an adrenaline rush like no other. To know we have
that
kind of control in our minds and bodies also boosts our
self-esteem!
That my Ladies is a very good thing!
Some women are sensitive enough that they will react instantly
to a
touch. That is not always that good. Her orgasm at that point
will be
quick and over before she even gets to really appreciate it. The
longer it takes to reach that ,"O" Zone, the more intense the
orgasm.
That is another reason you want to learn to control your body.
Eventually you will be able to tell your mind when and where!
A very, very good way to learn about your body is to bring
yourself to
orgasm. I tell women that all the time. You need to know and be
able
to connect with your own mind before you can allow someone to do
it
for you. Once you can learn to control your minds ability to
fantasize
or totally zone out, your body will follow naturally. Ladies
again, it
is so important to learn this because it keeps your mind off
whether
or not the O is going to happen. Once you have learned about
your
body, you will be able to bring that O on yourself just with
your
mind. A little hand stimulation is also your minds best friend
here.
You will know how much stimulation you will need at the time.
You will
eventually know your entire body`s secret passages to feeling.
Yes!
Very yummy. So my words here, are to get to know your secrets..
and
HAVE FUN!
Remember Ladies, men are not born with your road map to orgasm.
First
you need to draw it for him. Then show it to him. From there it
is
totally the big," O" every time. This is my recipe to the one
thing
that women can do over and over again, without a rest period.
Ha!!
Sorry guys, we were born that way.
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Laughter and Orgasms are Great Bedfellows John Callahan
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When modern woman discovered the orgasm, it was combined with
modern
birth control, perhaps the biggest single nail in the coffin of
male
dominance. Eva Figes