Having Sex or Making Love
Having sex or making love?
Actually, the difference between the two concepts is bigger than
some of us would like it to be. And, as almost every time, women
feel it the most. What is the difference? Well, love. Women need
to be protected, looked after and loved as much in bed as in
every day life.
Keep in mind that this is not just a legend used by women to
manipulate men. The difference between having sex and making
love, together with it's implications in a couple's sex life is
what many men forget when sharing the bed-sheets with a woman.
Clearly, everything written so far will not apply to
one-night-stands. In those cases it is all about a sexual
intercourse between two people who only share their bodies.
After the bottom line has been drawn, most men feel good about
themselves after a one-night- stand, without thinking about
their sexual performance. Totally pleasing a woman from the very
first time is no easy job as the only mystery she had disclosed
is her body.
Yet, most men are attracted to one-night-stands or, with other
words, to having sex. The lack of commitment needed and the easy
attaining of the main goal: feeling good, are just two reasons
pleading in favor of having sex.
On the other hand there is so much more between a man and a
woman making love. There are feelings and emotions, leading to a
totally different connection between the two of them. More than
that, for women, one of the most important things during sex is
the environment. And this means everything from location to
those few candles some like to place around the bed.
Let's take them in turn a little bit. If you want to leave her
smiling and begging for a cigarette and some more there are some
things you might like to take into consideration.
Trying dad's old car's rear suspension will make the car happier
than her. The ideal location would certainly be a bed in a nice
and cozy room with nothing interfering with the moment. Someone
knocking on the door or even a ringing phone can have very
undesirable effects. Some candle-like lights and easy-listening
music in the background adds even more to the overall foreplay.
Explore every inch of her body and draw imaginary contours with
your fingers and tongue, kiss her neck, breasts, belly and legs,
all in a specific order surrounding the most important area and
closing in at the same time. All this will increase the tension
and when that moment comes both you and her will feel the
difference.
Communication is essential for great results. Men must pay
attention to the unspoken signs every woman gives them. Ignoring
these signs will make women feel used. The old legend that says
that when a woman says "no" she actually means "yes" is nothing
more than a poor excuse so keep your ears open for her desires.
If all goes well, you might be given the supreme sexual command
and that's "don't stop!" When you hear that, whatever you do,
DON'T STOP!