Sex with Women
I once told a girl that I was dating to come over to my place
and hang out. She said, so what do you want to do today? I told
her that I wanted her to come over and have sex, and then we'd
go out and do something fun. I couldn't understand at the time
why she got upset with me, and subsequently didn't want to come
over anymore after that.
Luckily, we're still friends and I asked her about this months
later. I was shocked at what she told me.
She said that she DID want to come over and have sex, but that I
"cheapened" it by talking about it directly. I couldn't believe
what I was hearing! "How could telling you that I want to have
sex with you cheapen the act of doing it?", I asked (quite
angrily at that point).
She went on to explain that when you want a girl to come over,
and you know that sex is going to happen, it's better to speak
in implication, and refer to sex indirectly. "Well how do I do
THAT, and WHY should I have to?" I asked... still pissed off,
but very curious to discover the answer.
She understood my frustration, but reassured me that most women
are like this. She told me that if I want a girl to come over
and have sex, that it's a LOT better to tell her that I've been
thinking about her, and that I miss her, and how I would love
nothing more for her to come over spend time with me. "Well that
sounds like the same thing! I mean, she KNOWS damn well that if
she comes over to spend time, we're going to end up having sex.
She KNOWS that, so why do I have to beat around the bush and
avoid mentioning it directly???"
I was so confused, but also excited because her words did ring
true for me. I realized then that I had been going about things
all wrong when I invited girls to come over to my place. I
realized that I made them feel cheap by directly referring to
our time together as a time for us to just have sex. But if I
simply told them that I wanted them to come over and just be
with me, and tell them that I miss them... it would make them
feel okay about it (even though they knew that sex was
inevitable).
So remember, never indicate directly that you want her to come
over for sex. The sex is already ASSUMED, and therefore you
don't ever have to bring it up.
But when IS it okay to talk about sex? Honestly, in my
experience... if you want to talk about sex directly with a
woman, wait until you've been with them a few times in bed. At
that point, they are comfortable enough with you to talk openly
about such things, and they won't feel like that's ALL you want
them for.
Also, another great time to talk about sex is right AFTER. Let
me explain. You and her just finished getting it on, and now
you're lying there with her in your arms (if you are the kind of
guy who just rolls over after sex, you might want to rethink
your strategy, because women really get offended by
that).
At that point, it's a great opportunity to tell her what a great
lover she is, and what specifically you like the most about her
style of intimacy. Don't just make shit up either. If you can't
think of something that you can compliment her on, then it's
time to switch partners... or start paying closer attention and
get to know the person you're with a little better.
Okay, so to summarize... when you want a girl to have sex with
you, it's better to imply it, and maybe refer to it
indirectly... but NEVER just come out and say it directly. I
have never met one woman who wants to feel like she's being used
for sex. Make her feel special, and let her know that you want
to spend time with her for other things too, not just her
vagina... and you will have more sexual partners than you can
handle. And now, YOU will be in the position of choice when it
comes to women.
You see, beautiful women pretty much have their "pick of the
litter" when it comes to getting laid. They simply have more
options than most guys do. But by methodically building quality
sexual relationships with women, you will enjoy the same power
and choice.
And a quick note about ethics. Don't imply that you want a
romantic, committed relationship with a woman in order to get
into her panties. If you honestly want one, that's great. It's
much more satisfying... but don't ever mislead someone to
believing that you're interested in more than you really are.
It's deceitful, and hurts everyone involved.
Once you get good at being a ladies man, you'll realize that you
never have to lie in order to make women want to sleep with you.
In fact, I have found that just being myself and being honest
about my sexual desires has gotten me laid a LOT more than when
I was bullshitting women into bed with me.
Anyway, enough about that. I'm not your mother, and you can make
your own decisions. I just want you to know that it's been my
experience that being ethical is a lot more rewarding when it
comes to being a seducer. Some people think that seducing women
means being dishonest I'm here to tell you that nothing is
further from the truth. When you can make a woman feel really
wonderful when she's with you, she'll just naturally want to
come back for more. You won't have to convince her, or chase
after her. Trust me on this.
This article is a short clip from my latest book, Simple Seducer
- The most complete guide to picking up women EVER written. If
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educer.com ) and learn more about the book... it may just be
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By Sebastian Steele
Author : Sex with
women