Sexy Talking with Women
Okay, I'm going to share the formula that I use when deciding
what to say to women. It's fairly simple once you get the hang
of it... so bear with me.
Here's how it works.
Let's talk about psychology. Let's say you spot someone that you
want to talk to, and you're not sure what to say. Well, there
are a couple things that we need to think about first.
Number 1 — the person that you want to meet is probably
thinking about what's going on in their life. Maybe they are
thinking about something that happened at their job, or at
home.
Maybe they had a fight with their ex boyfriend, or maybe they
had a wonderful day and they are just out to relax. Now of
course, it depends on the context, but you have to realize that
there's a pretty good chance that the other person is not
standing there just WAITING for you to start a conversation with
them.
So when you start talking to them, it might be taken as a
welcome surprise, or an intrusion.
Now am I trying to discourage you from starting a conversation?
Of course not. What I am saying is that before you start the
conversation, it's a good idea to realize that the other person
can have a million things going on in their mind, and you need
to make sure that your opening statement contains some aspects
of the following formula.
#1 — It should be relevant to the situation your in. If
you see something interesting about that person, and you want to
comment on it, then that's relevant. If you make a casual remark
about the weather, then that's relevant. You might talk about
the long lines, or whatever. Just make sure that it's relevant,
and .....
#2 — easy to agree with. Make sure your statement is easy
to agree with. Yes, it IS hot outside. Yes, I am wearing a
beautiful sweater. Etc.
#3 — it should answer the silent question "why are you
talking to me".
Okay this is a biggie. Even though the other person might not be
asking themselves yet "why are they talking to me", most people
want to know that your intentions are good.
If you live in a city, then you're probably familiar with people
who will walk up to you and ask you for money, donations, a sip
of your drink, or they might even try and talk you into joining
some business of theirs. My point is, often times, people
(especially women) get approached by people who WANT something
from them.
Maybe it's their money, or their attention, or their phone
number. So, your opening statement should tell the other person
what you want from them. Why? Well look... if you don't get your
foot in the door first, then you sure as hell aren't going to
get all the way up to her bedroom. In an average scenario on the
streets, a woman will be guarded against talking to you until
she feels safe, and knows that you aren't trying to "get"
something from her.
Now let's take some of my previous opening statements and look
at them.
"Hey, you have a beautiful tan. What salon do you go to?"
— Now do you see how this statement has 3 elements? It's
complimentary — I complimented her tan.
It's relevant to the situation. I'm asking about something
that's going on right now.
And it let's her know what I want from her, and that it's safe
to talk to me. I did that by asking her a specific question
about the thing that I complimented.
Now what person WOULDN'T answer a question like that?
It's a great way to get the conversation started. Now the other
person may or may not be receptive to talking to you right now,
but if they are, then you will improve your chances of getting a
conversation started by 1000%.
You have a MUCH better chance of talking to the hot girl than if
you just delivered a "line" like.... Hey, you're pretty. What's
your name?". Or, "wow, you're cute... do you come here
often".
Some dating books even have the nerve to say that all you have
to do is say "hi". Well nooooo, it doesn't really work that way.
"Hi" is great, when you combine it with an opening statement
that uses the formula that I talked about, but "Hi", by itself,
sucks.
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By Sebastian Steele
Author : Simple
Seducer