How Information Kills Relationships
Information that kills relationships refers to an outcome that
happens when you just learn terms and facts without a meaningful
context. It is the passive reception of information.
I call this content-focused learning and it kills passion in the
bedroom and neuters any self-improvement effort.
With content-focused learning actions are completed without
understanding the relationships between the terms and facts.
Think of robotic actions - when sexual health is approached
through content focused learning it will always fail to produce
any lasting passion or improved sexual health.
The classic example to illustrate this danger is the plethora of
books on sexual techniques to improve sex life (i.e. improve
your orgasm in 3 steps).
As your Intuition knows, techniques alone are not sufficient
because they are very limited in what they can do to improve
sexual relationship and pleasure.
Instructions for your lover to move their fingers in figure 8
motions around the clitoris with three pounds of pressure rarely
translate into an intense orgasm for women.
We all have fallen into this trap at one time or another - how
many of us have purchased or borrowed a Kama Sutra book?
What where the results?
Think of the attitude you and your partner had towards using the
book as a guide? Was it constructive?
Did you try variations and seek and learn from each other
outside of the information in the book?
Did you share your understanding of the picture with your
partner?
Or did you passively look at the pictures and try various
positions moving from one position to the other - judging the
positions as stupid or too difficult?
Can you now understand how information can kill your sexual
relationships?
Building passion through understanding is a creative and
constructive act or ,as I perfer to call it, art.
When information is used to construct new understanding, outside
the source of the original information, a new relationship
between things and people emerge - creativity will always spark
passion and lead to fulfillment of desire.
Ultimately, sexual problems exist within the context of a
relationship and in life -- they are not only about bodies and
bedrooms.
In the real world sexual techniques must exist within a context
between lovers. No book can account for all the contextual
details of their readers. Information as content always has
limited value - it is only a starting point and should never be
confused with knowing.
What to do...
Learn how to recognize when you fall into the content-learning
trap and attempt to apply techniques as an experiment. Play with
the ideas rather that expect results.
Erik Kampe M.S., is a health author and expert in experiential
learning. Erik removes the confusion of information overload and
leads his clients in a process that teaches them how to become
their own health expert. Experience an Odyssey of Body, Mind and
Spirit - visit www.pathways-
womens-sexual-health.com