Infidelity
Infidelity is a major cause of divorce all over the world.
Learning what causes infidelity to occur and if your marriage is
showing warning signs is the first step in combating love
affairs outside your marriage from ever happening. Many of us
believe that our spouses leave us for younger, better looking,
or even richer partners. But, this is not the real case.
An affair can begin when someone gives your spouse the
attention that you are not giving, are more interesting than you
are, and may even be listening more to their needs. All
marriages will become stale if you both do not put an effort
into preserving the love and lust that you have for one another.
A marriage is a union between two people that desire to spend
the rest of their lives together.
Do you really believe that the marriage license is enough to
keep both of you faithful and in love until death do you part?
Every partnership takes both partners working for the same goal
in order to achieve success. You will hear from many
psychologists that a healthy marriage is one in which both
partners are not spending all their time together. They even go
as far to say that couples that do spend all of their time
together are co-dependent on one another. But, I disagree with
this statement entirely.
If you enjoy each others company, activities and are best
friends as well as lovers then I personally see no harm. You can
be just as interested in each other and have many exciting
things to talk about even when you spend many hours together. I
believe that there is more trouble in marriages if both partners
have no interest what so ever in activities that their partner
does. If you both go to work in the morning, come back home and
every evening you both go your separate ways to spend time with
your friends, go to club meetings, or sport functions, and then
all the weekends do the same, when are you spending time with
each other?
If you are never together you will drift apart. I am not
saying that every marriage is the same and it is fine to have
other interests that your spouse may not have and you should
also be able to enjoy them. But, there should be a happy medium
where you both can feel loved, wanted, and yes needed by your
spouse. The most important part of any relationship is
communication. If you are not communicating your spouse is sure
to find someone that can take your place and listen when they
want to talk.
Learning to communicate and sharing your feelings will keep
your marriage strong. If you always treat your spouse as you
would like them to treat you in all matters then your marriage
has a better chance than if you are always trying to get them to
cater to your feelings and moods. This marriage is your
marriage, and all couples are different in how they work out
their problems, their finances, and the raising of their
children. Just be there for one another and learn to
communicate. Be interesting, spontaneous and loving and your
marriage will never have to face the problems of
infidelity.