Learning to Have an Orgasm

There are many ways to help a women achieve an Orgasm. About 10 percent of women in America have never had the pleasures of having an orgasm, and believe it or not a majority of them can't have one through intercourse alone. So what do we do? As individuals we self explore ourselves and find out what buttons to push that gives us sexual pleasure. Only through self pleasuring do we find what our bodies enjoy the most, and what makes us have satisfying and enjoyable sex with our significant others. In self pleasuring, remember that it is not important to have an orgasm right off the bat, we want to take this time to explore our bodies, and find out what excites us and what doesn't. You are going to want to take your time, and be completely alone, without distractions. This should be your time, and only your time. Remember we are here to explore ourselves and learn what makes us sexually tick. Only then will you be able to learn how to achieve an orgasm. After you have made the decision to explore your body, you will now need a little insight on what to do with your time. One of the first things you have to do is make sure you are completely comfortable. Comfort is important, if you are not comfortable, then you are distracted, and that is a bad thing. Now using your favorite lubrication, gently massage your genitals, taking in what sensations you may feel or not feel. Explore freely, trying different speeds, and strokes. Use up and down, side to side and circular motions to vary the sensations. Take a mental note of the sensations that you feel, and don't get discouraged. I have heard in some women that it can take nearly an hour for a woman to achieve her first orgasm. With this in mind, don't get to disappointed if it doesn't happen the first time. If you take good mental notes, each time you explore yourself you will get a heightened awareness of what turns you on. With this new knowledge you can begin to bring yourself to an orgasm. There are other ways to achieve an orgasm, using a variety of sex toys works well. Sex therapists recommend using vibrators if you have never achieved an orgasm. Vibrators have been a tool used for thousands of years to help bring women to climax. Of course I always say start small, you don't need to go and buy the grandest vibrator of all, just something that will allow you to find your inner woman. Intercourse is another way to help a woman achieve an orgasm. There are certain positions that you can try, that will increase the sensations of your pleasure spots. Woman-on-top position is usually best, this way the woman has complete control, and she can control thrusting, she can direct you to any area that gives her the most pleasure in this position, stimulating her clitoris and G-spot. I have found that two people who have a deep love for one another, and are sexually oriented, will be easier to achieve an orgasm than just having a one night stand. Two people who are in tune with each other on all aspects of their life including sexual, have more fulfilling and gratifying sex, and it makes it easier for the women to relax and enjoy the moment, than stressing out over trying to achieve an orgasm.