How To Have A Successful Conversation With Any Woman!
To have a successful conversation with any woman you must know
what to say. Once you have mastered this, your actions or words
will never be misinterpreted again.
So, why are you talking to the beauty sitting beside you? Maybe
you want a relationship, a one night stand, or simply good old
"Hot Sex". Well, whatever the reason is you will need to use
conversation as a way to get closer to her. To establish an
intimate relationship with her. As explain in my book "the
Ultimate Online Dating Handbook" a women will generally evaluate
a relationship on how well she relates to a person. This means,
how she interacts with you, and how you make her feel about
herself. And, if you want to see her again it is important for
you to get along well with her. Talk to her about her likes, her
dislikes, ask her questions, answer her questions and offer your
opinions. Doing this will make her feel like you think she is
special enough to start up a real honest to goodness
conversation with her, and that you are not just playing her.
This will make her feel closer to you. The main goal of this
first conversation is to build the foundation for a possible
relationship with this woman. To become personally involved with
her, build her trust in you and to obtain curtain bits of
information about her.
O.K., so what information are you looking for from her? Having a
relationship with this woman will totally depend on whether or
not you can get this information. Success or failure here will
determine whether you ever see her again. If you are interested
in her and you think you would like to see her again make it
your priority to obtain the following...
#1 - Her Name When you go up to a woman and introduce yourself
to her, ask for her name as well. Then be sure to use her name
in the next sentence or two. This will show her you were paying
attention, and you are interested in her. It will also help you
to remember her name, and make sure you heard it right.
#2 - A Common Denominator Find a way the two of you can be
connected. By this I mean something that you both have in
common. It could be a mutual friend, the same drink, something
about your surrounding, same brand of watch, anything that could
link the two of you together. Use this common denominator to
relate to her, and help her to form a trust in you.
#3 - Her Phone Number This one can be a bit tougher, but before
the conversation ends you must make sure you have a means of
getting in touch with her again. A phone number or an email
address. Even if she has taken your phone number you still want
to get hers as well. Be direct when asking for this information.
Tell her you would like to see her again to take her out. Use
simple, straight forward language, make eye contact and tell her
you would love to see her again.
Now back to the basics. Fact is men and women think and talk
differently. Men think and talk facts. Women think and talk
feelings. So if you want to talk successfully to a woman you
will need to express emotions by telling her how you are
feeling. Generally men are not too good at doing this.
Therefore, the first thing you should do in your conversation
with her is to listen. Yes, listen. Listen and relate to her
conversation. Ask questions about what she is telling you. Share
your personal experiences to create an intimate connection. Too
often men will just ramble on about other things leaving the
woman feeling bored and ignored. When a man really listens, pays
attention to what the woman is saying and participates in her
conversation, she will feel that this man is genuinely
interested in her for her. This will make her feel really good
about you. Women are not interested in a guy who only talks
about himself, what prank he and his friends pulled. She also
has a no interest in someone who is only trying to get her into
bed. Now, while this maybe your ultimate goal, you'll need to
play it cool with any woman until she feels comfortable with you.
In your conversation with this woman make sure she realizes you
are paying attention to her. Use some verbal comments like
"uh-huh", "Oh yeah", "Oh really" or "Is that right!". Once she
feels you are trying to understand her and you want to get to
know her better, she will become more relaxed with you. As you
speak be attentive. Ask her questions like What? and How?. But,
never ask Why? This will put her on the defensive. Get some back
ground information on her as you participate in the
conversation. Did she grow up in this city/town? Where did she
go to school? Did she move here? What was it that brought her
here? Show an interest and get involved in the conversation. You
will surely impress her.
Good Luck! Marie Clare Relationship Consultant & Author