Analyzing The Drama Queen And A Woman's I.Q. Test
Why do women love drama?
The answer is quite easy. Women CREATE drama simply to put men
to the test. Women are attention-seekers in constant need of
reassurance and affirmation that someone cares for them and
wants to protect them. There is a correlation between the amount
of drama a woman creates and the success of a relationship,
based on these factors. The less women believe they are being
cared for and protected, the more drama they create. In the
realm of courtship and intimate relationships, women CONSTANTLY
put men to the test with the use of comments, complaints, and
DRAMA. Drama is employed by women to put people, often men, on
the spot, by exploiting their emotional strengths and weaknesses
to the breaking point. Women quickly judge how well men handle
drama; this is when they determine how much patience, courage,
will, passion, and other important characteristics are present
or absent in a man.
Why are men so oblivious to this? There are two main reasons.
First, it is all played out subconsciously, and second, we have
been socially programmed through media, pop culture, and belief
systems to become totally unaware of this fact. For women, drama
separates the boys from the men. Some of us rise to the
occasion, while others are clearly not up to the challenge and
wither away like an undesirable species. In relationships, the
more a man passes a woman's test, the more control and intimacy
they achieve with their partner. Women want men who are in
control of themselves, yet slightly out of control; a confident,
independent individual who excels in different arenas of life.
This is because women ultimately "surrender" themselves, to a
certain extent, to a man who they believe to be "the one".
Here are some examples of how women employ drama, along with
I.Q. test questions and comments:
"So, where are you taking me?" {wants sense of mystery/romance
created for her} "Can you do this for me...pleaseeeeee?" {test
of a man's integrity} "This place sucks!" "I want this
(clothing/food)." {anything impulsive} "I am annoyed." {any
extreme emotion} "Those people are bothering me." "I have a lot
of guy friends." {testing waters of jealousy, insecurity} "All
girls are bitches...I don't have many female friends." {same as
above, but w/hint of autonomy} "Why are you looking at her?!"
{test of loyalty through use of overt jealousy} "This guy asked
me out. He told me I'm hot/cute." {testing waters of jealousy,
insecurity} "Me and my girls are having a girls night out."
{employing sense of mystery} "I am going here instead." {sense
of mystery w/ display of independence} "Leave me alone!" {"I
want to talk about something with you." Or, "Leave me alone."}
"I don't play games." {"I play games CONSTANTLY."} "I'm not
worried about guys...just focused on school/work." {diversions
that are props or "fronts"}
All these techniques are a women's way of testing men to see if
the man is jealous, insecure, overly-nice, manipulative,
self-serving, spineless, or basically, worth their trouble. To a
woman, the most UNATTRACTIVE thing in the world is INSECURITY in
men. Why do you think nice guy's finish last? Because being
nice, usually means, but not always, being insecure in one way
or another. Women constantly test men's security. Since they
already know they can seduce us with their bodies, they need not
try this as a test, unless you passed all the others. Women are
only attracted to men whom they seek intimacy with, men who are
stern and in control of themselves, yet not jealous or
controlling. It makes us irresistible.
EXAMPLE 1: Woman: "So, where are you taking me?" Failed Answer:
"Where do you want to go?" Passed Answer: "It's a surprise."
Super-Seduction Pass: "Don't worry, you're going to LOVE it, and
if you don't....too bad..."
EXAMPLE 2: Woman: "I want this (clothing/food)." Failed Answer:
"Anything you want." Or, "You're so demanding!" Passed Answer:
"Not now, but maybe later." Or, "So take some initiative and go
get it." Super-Seduction Pass: "Hey, nothing's for free in this
world...what's in it for ME?"
Do you see the difference? The failed answers are either
submissive or insecure responses. The normal passed answers are
alright, but not necessarily good for creating attraction,
ambiguity or indifference, all of which keep women interested
(at least to the point where they will create more tests and
drama). The super-seduction pass answers let the woman know you
are in control, and if she wants something, she can give in to
you. It creates mystery and tension, which, when used together,
are VERY powerful and seductive tools.
The bottom line is, when it comes to dealing with a woman's
drama, recognize it, and act accordingly- that is, be a MAN, not
MANHANDLED. And never take a woman's words TOO seriously; they
change their minds more often than baby's change diapers (never
mind that analogy, what the hell do guys know about BABIES???).
Entre el Si Y el No de la mujer, No me atrevaria yo a poner una
punta de afiler. (Between a woman's "Yes"nd "No", There is not
room for a pin to go.) - Cervantes, Don Quixote
-written by Luigi Di Serio, edited by Aaron S. Bayley