Meditating for Sexual Desire
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Meditating for Sexual Desire by Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.
Need a little help igniting that loving feeling? Try this quick
little technique and spark those sensual fires into flames.
Dress to feel sexy. You could try this completely naked, or in
your silk undies, or a sensual piece of lingerie. Something that
makes you feel sensual and sexy.
Sit down or lie down someplace quiet.
Take a very deep breath in through your nose, not your mouth.
Breathing through your nose keeps the charge of energy in check,
increasing control and slowing your metabolism.
To breathe properly, when you inhale your abdomen should
protrude not your chest. When you exhale, your abdomen should
flatten. When you breathe in you should breathe completely until
the lungs are full and when you exhale it should be until all
air is expelled.
Breathe deeply and completely. Try not to think about anything.
Focus your mind completely on your breath, letting it flow in
and out with each breath.
Repeating a mantra such as the word "relax" or some other
soothing word while breathing can also be helpful in keeping the
mind focused on the breath. For the goal of arousal you could
choose a word like "sexy" or "passion" or "sensuous."
Do this several times until you begin to feel your body begin to
relax.
Once you are relaxed then take the very tip of your fingertips
and caress your body. Run your fingertips gently across your
arms, across your inner thighs, your breasts, your abdomen, your
neck, your face. Touch any or all parts of your body with a
sensuous caress.
Keep your mind focused completely on the enjoyable sensations
you are experiencing.
When breathing out, with your minds eye guide your breath into
your breasts and vaginal area. When you begin to feel the surge
of arousal, meditate on it and let it radiate through your body.
Imagine that when you breathe in and out that sexual energy is
pulsating through your body.
Continue to breathe deeply though the nose.
As you continue to touch yourself, bring a particular fantasy
into mind and play it out in your head. This fantasy may include
your favorite celebrity, that sexy neighbor of yours, or whoever
it is that light your fires. If you are in a relationship you
can fantasy about what you 're going to do with your lover the
next time you're together or what you would like to happen. You
can also relive a particular passionate sexual adventure you
experienced in the past.
Once you are aroused you can then masturbate, make love with
your partner or let the arousal build until later.
Practicing this technique on a regular basis can help build your
desires and keep them alive.