Five Tips to Reignite Lost Sexual Desire
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Five Tips to Reignite Lost Sexual Desire By Cynthia Perkins,
M.Ed.
Temporary loss of desire may occur from time to time in all
relationships. Major life changes, illness, periods of excess
fatigue or stress can all put a damper on one's fire for a
period of time, and sometimes the brief break can cause you to
crave one another again and this will be beneficial for the
relationship, but if the loss of desire persists indefinitely
and creates distress for one or both partners then there is a
problem. Fluctuations in desire are normal and expected, but
complete loss of desire results in unhappy relationships. If
this isn't addressed, it can destroy the relationship.
If you've lost your loving feeling try some of these suggestions
to get your motor running again.
1.Create the Mood Don't just sit and wait for your desire to
appear or the mood to strike you. You need to create the mood
and stimulate desire. There must be a willingness to work on
creating the mood.
2. Make Sex a Priority With our hectic fast paced society,
relationships tend to get pushed to the side and sex sometimes
becomes something that you fit in whenever you can. You need to
make time for lovemaking. When sex is pushed aside desire and
passion dwindle. The more you engage in sex the more your desire
will grow.
3. Get Your Needs Met Unmet needs will lead to feelings of
resentment and anger and cause a loss of desire for your
partner. When needs are not met, sex will not be satisfying and
you may unconsciously decide you don't really like sex anymore.
Is he meeting your need for foreplay or is he moving straight to
the genital action? Sometimes women have a lack of desire if
their lover is not stimulating them enough or in the manner
that's needed. Make sure you share with your lover what it is
you need to be aroused.
4. Resolve Conflict Resentments, hurt feelings, anger, fear etc.
can create a lack of desire. Sometimes women bury unresolved
feelings. Perhaps your partner did something months ago that
really hurt you and you haven't been able to let go. Or perhaps
you've let many things build up for a long period of time. Be
honest and open with your partner. If you have unresolved
feelings then talk to him about it. What happens outside the
bedroom will impact greatly what happens or doesn't happen in
the bedroom.
5. Rule out Possible Physiological Causes Loss of sexual desire
can be something physiological such as: an illness, hormonal
imbalances (androgen, testosterone, progesterone, DHEA) or
Thyroid abnormalities. If after some self-reflection and inner
exploration you can't put your finger on why your desire has
dwindled, then see a physician who specializes in loss of sexual
desire.
You don't always have to be in the mood to meet your partner's
needs. To prevent your lover from feeling rejected or deprived,
help him achieve orgasm in other ways. Have other forms of sex
such as masturbating him or giving him oral.
Sex does not always have to result in intercourse. Focus on the
intimacy and enjoying the physical sensations of closeness,
love, sensuality and touch.
Women frequently have specific reasons for not desiring sex that
they are unaware of. Loss of desire can occur for many reasons.
It can be psychological/emotional, hormonal, social/cultural or
physiological. Or it a may be a combination of several of these
factors. It's very important to sort them out and address each
issue.
Don't let your wild woman become lost.