Things To Avoid At Your First Date
The Eight Commandments of Dating By http://www.easy-dates.com
Finally, after a year of mending a broken heart, you come out of
your shell and announce to your friends that you are ready to
meet other people.
However, after several years of having a steady date, you find
yourself feeling eerie going back to dating. It's like you're
clueless. You can't recall what your first date like with your
ex- partner (or you intend not to recall). And you really want
to make it right this time.
At the midst of your apprehension, your friend calls you and
excitedly announced to you that she got you a date. She talks
nonstop about how gorgeous this guy is and went on to endless
list of this guy's achievement and best features. Meanwhile,
your thoughts had drifted to your many anxieties on having your
first date ever after a major break-up.
You are afraid that you might screw it up. That the guy may not
be as good as your former. That you will be tongue-tied the
entire time you are together. Perhaps, you may never have any
thing to say to him. That you might become a lousy date. Or you
are never really be prepared on going back to the dating game
yet.
Don't fret. You are not alone. Many have gone through the
jitters too. And it is usual. Don't be too hard on yourself by
backing out just because you fell like you can't make it. It's
just a matter of knowing what to avoid to make your date click.
Here are the EIGHT COMMANDMENTS OF DATING to the rescue.
1. Thou shall not be late Do all the necessary preparations
ahead of time. I suggest that a night before the big day, choose
your outfit already. So, that you won't hurry dressing up for
your date. You don't want your partner to see you wearing the
wrong pair of earrings. Make sure that when your guy knocks on
your door, you are all set. Cramming is one disaster risk
factor. So, be careful not to cram. Having your date stand for
10 minutes on your day will not create a nice impression.
2. Thou shall not narrate break-up history on thy date. For
God's sake don't do this. You are supposed to have fun and not
sour grape over your most recent break-up. And besides, past is
past, bury them all on the ground and start anew. Your date is
suppose to be a new prospect, not a shock absorber. Your friends
have that role already. Instead of dwelling in the past, know
this new guy in front of you more. Ask him about his stuff like
- what he does, his kind of sports, hobbies, interests and more
until such time you arrive at your common interest. Little do
you know, that you have been talking for three hours straight
and enjoying every minute of it.
3. Thou shall not be tongue- tied Don't let your date ask you
where your mouth is because you cannot think of anything to say.
Or there's something wrong with you because your answers are all
monosyllables. Let him get to know you better. Tell him what you
do on your work, on your free time, your favorite activities,
sports and stuff. You can initiate a conversation to impress him
more. Men want their women to be witty and sensible.
4. Thou shall not compare The man in front of you is totally a
different individual. It will be unfair to pattern him to your
previous guy or make a note of comparison. What you should do is
discover this new person in front of you and forget the past guy
even his name if you wish to. Comparison as your standards will
not put you anywhere. It will just make your date a disaster.
And please, do not dare verbalize your notes of comparison with
your date.
5. Thou shall not come in thy worst appearance. Hey, you are
dating because you want to hook up with the right guy this time.
So, you have to create a good impression. Don't make your date
run away from you because you look like you've come from another
planet with your dress, haven't taken a bath for days and smell
like garbage. Be on your best attire. Look good and smell fresh.
That way, you can captivate his attention the entire time you
are together. And he'll be proud of you as a date.
6. Thou shall not be silly. The worst thing you can be is
looking silly. Do not talk things as if you're a pro if in
reality you are clueless. You would end up saying the wrong
things that will confuse your date a lot. Look smart. If you
happen to be unaware of what he's saying about the sports
hockey, ask him questions. He will even be amused because you
are paying interest on what he is talking about.
7. Thou shall not be aloof Guys will be uncomfortable if they
notice that their date seems to be aloof with them. Remember, it
is both your first time to see each other. So, he is equally
nervous about your date. Don't make him feel more nervous by
being distant. Let him feel that you intend to enjoy the night
with him. Be friendly enough to give him your sweet smile. Don't
give him a cold shoulder. If he feels that you welcome his
presence, he'd be motivated to ask you for another date.
8. Thou shall not be nervous Don't worry too much on having a
great date instead enjoy your date. If you feel nervous, you're
most likely to shake. It will be embarrassing if your date
caught you holding a glass shaking. Don't be over powered with
his presence. Show him you can manage yourself well. Be
confident. Look straight in his eyes when you answer his
questions. Flash your best smile. Amuse him with your wits and
looks. Guys love women who are empowered.
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