The Art of Seduction
Seduction is a question of subtle strategy with one ultimate
goal - to have sex with someone.
The desire for sex is powerful; for some it can be as powerful
as the need to eat and breath. Seduction is the road we take to
achieve sexual satisfaction.
While the ultimate goal is to have sex, there are lots of
smaller goals that need to be reached along the road to the
sexual surrender of our chosen partner.
For some, the thrill of seduction lies in the chase rather than
the conquest. The excitement of wanting and pursuing someone can
give a sense of satisfaction in itself. For others, the electric
thrill comes from knowing that another person's sexual
attentions are focused on them. Those who thoroughly enjoy the
chase are generally people with plenty of self-confidence and
their confidence increases the likelihood of success.
Those who are less confident usually find seduction far more
difficult. How can you convince a member of the opposite sex to
fancy you if you see yourself as being unattractive?
It's important that you choose the right person to seduce. This
is more a matter of instinct than anything else but most of us
endeavour to make conversation, or at least some eye contact,
with a potential partner who we consider to be our equal on the
scale of physical appeal.
Once you've sought out your 'prey' you need to decide whether
the time and/or situation is right for seduction. If the object
of your passion is somebody you see on a regular basis, the
time/place being wrong may very well add to the thrill. If
you're getting the right feedback, the knowledge that the other
person is interested but that you can't do anything about it
just yet can increase the feelings of arousal and excitement.
But how do you know that he's interested? The best clues come
from reading body language. Non-verbal signals are far better
indicators of how a person feels about you than anything they
may actually say verbally. Those with an open posture are
usually more available than those who stand with their arms
crossed. The eyes are the biggest give-away when it comes to
seduction. If he returns your gaze, and especially if he holds
eye contact with you longer than is usually acceptable, then the
chances are you're on to a winner. Trust your instincts. You'll
'feel' whether he's interested or not. Small gestures and tone
of voice tell us a lot about how the other person feels about
us.
Flirt. Did I really need to mention that? Flirting is used in
two ways. We flirt with others to remind our partner that we
still need to be wooed by him, but when used for seduction, it's
a means of keeping the other person interested and aroused as
well as letting them know that they are unlikely to be rejected.
Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly dependent on
women's signals to reassure them that they are 'onto something'.
Playing hard-to-get isn't particularly attractive to men unless
you're sending out enough signals to assure him that it really
is just a game and that you are indeed 'gettable'. Let him know
that the chase will most likely be worth it in the end.
Once you've made contact with him, you'll need to let him know
where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have very
different ideas of what sex should be so it's important that you
both know that you're looking for the same things. This doesn't
mean that you should just blurt out "I'm a dominatrix, how d'ya
fancy being whipped?" or anything else quite as obvious. You can
if you really must, and you never know, it might just work, but
in general the subtle approach is more likely to get you what
you want. Men generally take the lead in this area, asking
questions and trying to access whether you'd make a satisfactory
sex partner. Follow his lead. The questions probably won't be
direct (depending upon the man), but they will be based around
'self-disclosure'. He tells you some, you tell him some. People
typically discuss sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner when
accessing a potential partner, testing each other in a
non-committal way.
Now that you're speaking you'll need to sustain his interest.
Two people who've found each other through physical attraction
may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of
seduction once mouths have been opened. Look for signs of
acceptance or rejection. If you pick up on any signs of
rejection, don't waste your time on something that is very
unlikely to happen, no matter how much you fancy him. There are
plenty more available males about just waiting to be seduced.
If you're still doing fine and the signals are good, it's time
to move onto the final yielding. One of you must surrender. In
all probability it will be you, because even if you initialised
the seduction, he will probably have taken over the role of
pursuer somewhere along the line. The roles of 'hunter' and
'prey' have been decided through thousands of years of
evolution, and usually fall naturally into place. Surrender and
enjoy!