5 Sexual Myths Destructive to Your Relationship
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5 Sexual Myths Destructive to Your Relationship by Cynthia
Perkins, M.Ed.
In this era where sex seems to be on the mind of everyone and
talked about more openly than ever before, it is surprising that
there continues to be a lot of misinformation and
misconceptions. These myths perpetuate unhealthy patterns of
relating, expectations and satisfaction and have the potential
to destroy a relationship.
Don't allow your relationship to be prey to the following myths:
1. A Good Relationship Shouldn't Have Any Sex Problems All
couples will probably experience some sexual problems at some
point. This does not mean your relationship is over or not a
good one. If the problems are not addressed and worked out, then
your relationship could be in jeopardy, but the mere existence
of problems is not a sign of failure, it's a normal part of
relationships. Your partner's sexual needs may change over time.
Stress and major life changes are an inevitable part of
everyone's life. These kinds of issues can cause change in
levels of desire, satisfaction etc. and will require periods of
adjustment.
2. Size Matters This simply is not true. In an attempt to make
money, the media continues to keep this destructive myth alive,
making men feel inadequate and self-conscious. They set up
expectations that are impossible for a man to live up to and
make them falsely believe that this is what a woman wants. This
is absurd. You do not need a big penis to be an incredible lover
and satisfy your woman. Only the first third of a woman's vagina
has nerve endings for feeling, the other two thirds has no
feeling, so even a small penis is quite capable of stimulating
the first third. What are most important to a woman is what kind
of lover you are, what kind of person you are, how you feel
about her and how you treat her. Making your woman feel loved,
special, cherished, appreciated and desired will make sex great
for her.
3. A Woman Should Orgasm with Intercourse Alone The majority of
women cannot orgasm with intercourse alone, regardless of how
big the penis is, because it does not provide sufficient
stimulation to the clitoris. Many couples struggle needlessly,
believing that one of them is doing something wrong if they are
not able to achieve this. Using positions that stimulate the
clitoris during intercourse may work for some, such as the woman
on top or the riding high missionary. You can also stimulate the
clitoris with a finger or a vibrator during intercourse or give
your woman her satisfaction by pleasuring her orally or
manually.
4. My Partner Should Know How to Pleasure Me Without My Telling
Them Your partner is not a mind reader. Lack of communication is
one of the biggest factors in sexual dissatisfaction. Yes, most
people know the basics, but everyone has unique sexual needs
that only they are aware of. You must teach your partner what it
is that you need. Don't be shy! Be specific and detailed.
5. It Shouldn't Take Work to Keep Passion Alive Yes, we would
all love to live in the land of fairy tales, but unfortunately
it just does not exist! Once again the media is largely
responsible for promoting an ideal that just isn't realistic.
Relationships go through cycles and levels of passion will
vacillate. In the early stages of love passion is a blazing
inferno that can't be put out and doesn't require any work, but
as the relationship progresses, passion will not stay alive
without effort. You must nurture your relationship to keep
passion alive.