What to look for when finding a submissive.
There are many aspects of looking for the right submissive
partner. As I have spoken to many people thru out the years I
always make a point to explain in detail what they need and how
they can achive what they want.
I have listed a general number of topics to look for to finding
what is right for you.
1) Communication Ask questions to the most detail. Anything that
is important to you should be asked.
2)Trust Building trust start at the beginning of getting to know
your partner. Learn to build a base to grow with. It may take
weeks to get to a comfortable level of trust. Enjoy the
experience.
3)Look & Listen The person that you pick to be your partner must
know who you are, train him/her to listen. Watch there body
language to see how they respond with no words.
4)Training You must show the submissive that you are in charge.
Train him/her to know what you want/need to be done. Do not let
the submissive top from the bottom.
5)Pain As many may know pain plays a factor with in the BDSM
play. Pain can be mild to extreme. I have always taught when
learning to play start with at slow pace and build up to a point
that suits both.
6)Pleasure In all mean the over laying of pleasure during the
time that you give out the pain aspect is need to learn that
what was once pain can turn to be the most pleasurable
experience a submissive can have. Training the submissive to
enjoy the experience.
7)Exploring As time goes on the exploring of new and exciting
experience progress. It opens new avenues of expression. Learn
that sexuality a pleasurable experience and that you can explore
beyond your means.
8)Limits Everyone have limits. And as time goes on they will
change and you are exposed to more experiences. Keep a open
mind. Never feel that its beyond your means. Know what you want
to fulfill your inner self.
9)Safety Always play safe. Use safe words. Respect the limits
with who you play with. For this is not a game. It's about
finding who you are and growing with in the greatest experience
that you can have. Play with a person that is educated in what
BDSM is really all about.