Mutual Masturbation
Okay so most of us know how to masturbate alone and probably do
so quite often when the need arises, but we can also use
masturbation as a couple to add a little variety to our sexual
smorgasbord and to spice things up a bit.
Oh yeah, seeing my lover on his knees on the bed stroking his
shaft with the look of exquisite pleasure on his face is one of
the most erotic images for me, and for many men, seeing their
woman touch herself and bring herself to ecstasy is extremely
arousing.
So masturbating for each other can be a great addition to our
sexual repertoire. No only is it stimulating, but it is also a
magnificent way for us to learn how to touch our lover. We can
observe where, when and how they touch themselves, taking note
of intensity and speed and we can learn how to satisfy them
better by adopting their methods when we masturbate them.
For example: we can learn does our lover like her clitoris
stimulated through the hood or does she need it exposed or we
can learn does our lover like to be stroked hard or gentle.
We can take turns being the voyeur and the exhibitionist. If one
partner enjoys mutual masturbation and the other feels a little
shy, then you could try making a game out of it where the not so
shy one can try to catch the shy one without their knowing and
spy on them while they masturbate. This way the shy one can be
uninhibited and the not so shy one can get their arousal. You
could have the ending be that you both climax alone during the
act of the game or you could set it up so it ends with
intercourse.
As you practice masturbating for each other it will help bring
down inhibitions and you can grow closer together.
Masturbating for each other can be used as an alternative to
intercourse if we are not in the mood or it can be a part of
foreplay. It is a great form of sex if we are in a new
relationship and have not moved full steam ahead yet. It can
also be used if one partner is too tired for intercourse, and
yet wants to participate in satisfying their partner.
We can also masturbate each other. Taking what we have learned
by observing our partner and applying it. We can take turns with
all the attention focused on one partner at a time until they
climax or it can be simultaneous. It can be very arousing to
watch our partner stimulate us manually as we stimulate them, as
both partners can benefit from viewing and being viewed. We can
be the voyeur and the exhibitionist at the same time.
We can add toys to the scenario and try a variety of different
positions and locations as well. Perhaps a camera or video
camera would be fun.
Ahhh, the possibilities are immense. Be creative, adventurous
and playful.