How well do you know your own eyes?
How well do you know your own eyes? An insight into your EYES
By: Pradeep Aggarwal
A quote
The power of a glance has been so much abused in love stories
that it has become to be disbelieved in. Few people dare now say
that two beings have fallen in love because they have looked at
each other. Yet in this way that love begins and in this way
only. The rest is only the rest, and comes afterwards. Nothing
is more real than these great shocks, which two souls give each
other in exchanging this spark.
Overview
Our eyes give away our innermost secrets. They can communicate
attraction and desire and even over distance we can sense when
some one is watching us. But have you ever experienced love at
first sight? Opinion differ as to the reliability and longevity
of such instantaneous attraction, yet it is a phenomenon which
seems to strike at the very heart of many and which is
celebrated in folklore, mythology and love songs.
In fact, as infants, we express many our needs and desires
exclusively through eyes. This facility is something we never
lose. The eye skills we learn at this early stage in our lives
are critical in establishing and maintaining bonds with other
people. Just think about these descriptive phrases: smoldering
eyes; icy stare; looking daggers; if looks could kill you;
shifty eyes; the green eyed monster; eyes of an angel; piercing
blue eyes; sheep's eyes; bedroom eyes; giving someone the evil
eye or the glad eye. They always convey a deep-rooted message or
two.
The science of eyes
The eyes are the most important tools in the successful use and
understanding of sexual non-verbal communication. They are
highly attuned ultra-sensitive sensory organs, shown by
psychologists to be 18 times more sensitive than our ears, as
measured by the relative size of the optic and cochlear nerves.
They are vital both as receptors of non-verbal sexual signals,
and as sensual communicators, capable of transmitting intimate
covert and overt messages straight into the consciousness of
other people.
The secrets and a peep into eyes
Let's examine some of the psychological secrets that researches
have discovered have discovered about the eyes. Experts in this
field tell us that the larger the pupil size the more interested
we are in what we are looking at, and that this is also a direct
indicator of sexual interest and arousal. Research further
confirms that men found photographs of women more attractive
when the pupils are dilated, likewise, women experience the same
reaction.
Setting a romantic mood by turning down the lights partly
achieves its success through the resultant pupil dilation, which
makes us appear simultaneously attractive and more turned-on. It
has exactly the same effect on our companion. This is why candle
light dinners are synonymous with romance - candlelight is not
only flattering to skin color and texture, it encourages and
shows off our pupil dilation to best effect.
The magic of eyes
Stating & Gazing
Let's analyze two important words associated with our eyes.
STARING & GAZING. They are not at all the same thing. One is
attacking and the other Inviting. A stare is like shooting
invisible arrows from your eyes into the eyes of the person on
the receiving end, leaving them cold and defensive or feeling
invaded. A gaze, however, welcomes a person into our line of
sight, and into our eyes. The person upon whom we gaze feels
great warmth. Women generally gaze more than men. This many be
because they are often more attentive listeners. Women find the
eyes of men who gaze well attractive, the more so because many
men are unskilled at this.
Blinks & Winks
Every time we blink we re-moisturize the surface. The rate at
which we blink has a profound unconscious effect on any one
looking at or into our eyes. Just think for a minute of the
excitement and tension (and often arousal) that takes place in
when you play the 'stating game'. To induce a romantic feel,
however, by all means blink. If some one looks at us eye-to-eye
and is very attracted to us, not only will that person's pupil
size increase, so will their blink rate. You can increase the
blink rate of the person to whom you are talking by blinking
more yourself; if the person likes you he or she will
unconsciously try to match your blink rate to keep in synchrony
with you. This will in turn make you both feel attracted to each
other.
The wink proper is a fantastically powerful sexual signal when
it is employed by women, but is often something of a turn-off
when used by men. Men can use winks to send a clear message of
sexual intent towards a woman, but they are best delivered
subtlety. The 'quieter' the wink, the more pleasing it is to
receive. Delivered in conjunction with a gentle smile it can be
devastating.
Tip of the day
One of the most erotic ways to touch someone early in an
intimate encounter is to give them a 'butterfly kiss'.
Now what is a 'butterfly kiss"? This is when you gently caress
the cheek or may be the nose of the other person with the tips
of the eyelashes of one eye. Try it now on the palm of your hand
if you've never tried it before. It's a lovely, soft, tickling
feeling.
P.S. Your eyes are your most precious assets in the armory of
signals available to you when applying the secrets of
attraction, so use them wisely.
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