Online Dating: 4 Mistakes to Avoid
Did you catch the dating mistakes made during episode one of
ABC's "Hooking Up" documentary series? If you caught the episode
on July 14th, I'm sure you would have noticed what doesn't work
when it comes to dating...
Mistake #1: Using an old photo
A self-proclaimed 'Fabio' look-a-like used a 15-year old picture
of himself to entice women to meet him. I guess he figured once
they met the 'older' version of himself they'd be charmed enough
to stay. Not!
Mistake #2: Telling a lie... or two.
These come in at least three categories - age, name, and
profession. I'm sure there are more but only three occurred in
the 1st episode (that I saw). The musician (from mistake #1)
said he was in his 30's but he was actually in his 40's. Can't
you just hear the umpire? Steeee-rike 2!
Or the classic line from one of the female daters on the show:
"My name isn't Jennifer, it's Lisa." Which was followed by her
revealing that she was a doctor - just like her now confounded
date.
Mistake #3: Asking yourself the wrong questions.
Cynthia, one of the daters, was a bit down after a string of
rather unpleasant dates. She asked herself outloud 'Why am I
single?' It had a feeling of 'what's wrong with me?' to it.
A better question would have been - "How do I need to be to find
the man who fits into my ideal relationship?" Or, 'What's the
next best step for me in finding my ideal mate?' Questions that
focus on the positive of what you can do or be.
Mistake #4: Breaking up by email
This is probably more of an etiquette 'violation' than a
mistake. Breaking up with a date by email. While the fellow said
it was a cop-out, it was still tactless.
It's rather entertaining watching the online dating experiences
of others. Learn from their mistakes and save yourself a whole
lot of time and trouble.