The Attack On The Mail Order Brides Industry (Part Three)
I feel like you are catering to a clientele who are only capable
of having shallow relationships.
I cater to all men you just happen to think men are shallow for
being men And if that's how you want to make a buck, I guess
that's good for you. But all the cynicism you are pandering to
is just causing more cynicism to grow.
The cynicism is in your head. Cynicism is not derived from
bringing a couple into happiness. There is also evidence of
unfair bias against Colombian men mentioned in your website or
your last correspondence, I can't remember where. But it says
that these men are not desired by Colombian women because they
drink and/or are unfaithful. I get that this is your angle; I
mean you've got to put down American women and Colombian men to
justify the need for your business.
I do not put down Colombian men any differently than a football
player saying to another football player from another team that
we are going to win because we believe we are the better
football team. The quote you are referring to is from a
Colombian woman. This is what many Colombian women think of
Colombian men. I do not to create an "angle" when the reality is
ample promotion for the business. The "need" is natural I can
not create a need. You just do not like the fact of American men
seeking beautiful foreign women who are eager to meet quality
American men But I believe that people are people, no matter
where they come from or what they look like or how much money
they have.
"People are people" only in the broadest since. People are
different and different places have different types of people
and the difference that American men have are desired by many
foreign women. Stereotyping people based on sex or appearance or
culture is hurtful and destructive.
I apply generalization where fitting. But there is no content to
your charges of "stereotyping", "pandering", "put down"
"cynicism", "shallow" these are just strong words in an empty
shell. I probably won't be surprised if you comb over my letter
thoroughly and get out your hair splitting devices and
over-analyze every last semantic or grammatical nuance of my
e-mail. I am not gifted at the art of argument or even
communication for that matter.
This is just an excuse for hiding behind sloppy reasoning and
unsubstantiated concerns. You presented a case that was filled
with falsehoods and you expect this to go unchallenged. I agree
you have difficulty in the art of debate and communications.
However, this is due to your faulty thinking; it would be
impossible for anyone to logically defend your position
regardless of how well they communicated. Instead you attack and
avoid any questioning that would distinctly define your position
and likely contradictions. I asked you 20 questions and you
failed to answer one single question. Yes, why answer any
question that would make you look foolish for your beliefs.
Doesn't matter that I answered every one of your questions to do
the same in return just doesn't come to mind even though I
specifically requested that you do so so we could fully
understand your position. I address only the overall impression
I gleaned from your website - that I find it derogatory - and
the documented abuses and anecdotal evidence that the mail order
bride industry is a sketchy one.
Your "impression" was void of facts. Whether or not you agree
with anything I have written, you must admit that one unkind
turn deserves another. That's only fair right?
Yes. You describe American women in unkind terms, even saying
that we all think we're the best or something like that.
I specifically said, "To attract the premium American woman (and
they all think their premium) requires you to be at the top of
your game." I would hardly call this as unkind this and the
three other sentences directly or indirectly referencing
American women on the website if anything is a praising. I find
a strong self esteem, discriminating taste and complicated
traits as positive features. I have made it very clear I do not
care or need to insult American women to highlight other avenues
for American men that may be to their liking. Why you object to
men having this avenue is still unexplained. Then you show a
picture of a table of young Colombian women "vying" for a
customer's attention. And this is not degrading to the Colombian
women?
I did not think it was degrading for me to be vying for my
wife's attention and all the other women I pursued in the past.
So why should it be any different for women to do the same. If
anything it puts them in control of who they choose to seek.
When I was in my 20's I had women pursuing me and I never
thought less of them for this. In fact I found the brightest and
more accomplished women generally did this. The Colombian women
that have participated in these social gathering have found the
experience to be fun, interesting and safe. Many of these women
have never met an American man so what's wrong with them sharing
a conversation with other women to see if there is a mutual
interest in a man they agree to meet based on seeing his photo
and profile? Having to vie for a male's attention?
So you must feel only men should have to vie for a woman's
attention. This is typical leftist feminist thinking. They want
everything balanced among the sexes even if it goes against
nature unless the "equality" is not in their favor. Hey wait a
minute, this is getting to look even more like a reality t.v.
show every minute!
No Amy, reality follows the laws of nature you are trying to
fictionalize a bad ending that is void of reality. So you
perpetuate more negativity towards yourself and your service.
Now this is a far leap women vying for a man's attention
perpetuates more negativity towards me and my services. Amy you
have yet to validate one negativity let alone "more." You view
of the world is tainted by your own cynical outlook. I feel
positive about what I do and the women and men we introduce that
get engaged feel positive about the method of their
introductions and the outcome. But we should stop the picture
and listen to your shouts of negativity. Does it occur to you
that you should be out the picture? Mail order bride jokes are
almost as prevalent as lawyer jokes. Come on guy, you know that!
I have never heard of one mail order bride joke. But I have
heard many dumb blonde jokes and that has never stopped any guy
I know from chasing a blond or discourage any woman from dyeing
her hair blond. So what does mail order bride jokes have to do
about anything? What aspect of life is not joked about? Are you
saying one shouldn't be a lawyer because many people make lawyer
jokes? Is this your logic? Viewing your website and others like
it does not leave me with a positive impression about your
business. I don't have a positive impression of the other mail
order brides websites either, but it is very lacking for you not
to be able to distinguish the difference in mine. The next time
I am with friends and we see a repugnant obnoxious male with a
wedding band, would it be insensitive to crack a male order
bride joke? Insensitive to laugh at one? Perhaps. Again what
does this have to do with anything? It appears you are the one
"stereotyping" men that marry foreign women. But seeing your
website has understandably not made me feel sympathetic towards
your cause. Amy I am not asking for your sympathy or support
just your non interference; and it is not I with the "cause." I
am simply for men and women freely selecting who they will
marry. You are the one that appears to have the "cause" against
matrimonial freedom for adults. Instead of trying to increase
understanding about your service, you seem to want to alienate
American women. I suppose you would, seeing as how women do not
use your service.
Amy I don't need non-interested parties to understand my
services. I run an introduction marriage agency not a public
service outlet. The men and women that use our introduction
service "understand." Your objections have allowed others to
understand the mindset and true intentions of those that share
your frightening, interfering, and freedom restrictive opinion.
You hide your true intentions, which is to limit men from
marrying foreign women who want to marry them. You attack
without cause or facts. You belittle men and women from choosing
how they should meet and who they can marry. You prevented a
fair exchange and defined understanding by disregarding every
question I asked of you, which makes it impossible for me to
continue with your one way discussion void of evidence, reason
and courtesy.
Jamie Engage the Exotic