The First Impression is a Lasting Impression
The first date is the most apprehensive, nerve wreaking event in
the beginning of any relationship and it is also the "first
impression" and the one thing in life that can never be changed!
OK, so you have talked for months on the computer and on the
phone, you have talked about childhood to adulthood, good and
bad, past relationships, family and everything else in between
and you think you really know this person and like them enough
to meet them in person. The anticipation builds, you talk and
you plan, where to go, what to do, what to wear, so many
preparations to make a great impression and hopefully start a
relationship that will last a lifetime.
In making that first impression, insure that you have been
honest with this person and they have been honest with you,
dishonesty does not a good relationship make. Talk to your new
friend and discuss what you would like to do, where you would
like to go, keeping the others likes and dislikes in mind. From
that point try the following tips to plan an outing that is sure
to be a pleasant time for both of you.
1. Whatever your plans are, have a backup plan in case of
cancellation, closing or the weather. 2. Be punctual, plan a
specific time and meeting place 3. Discuss the attire for your
outing, nothing worse than showing up in a casual attire when
your date is dressed more formal. 4. The first date should be
short and informal, about 2 hours. If after 10 minutes your are
cringing in your seat and realize this is not the one, you can
cut it short and move on, however if you like them and it is
going well, you can always extend the date. 5. Do not discuss or
bad mouth past partners, talk about your interests, your job,
hobbies, etc. 6. Limit alcohol or plan a date where alcohol is
not available. 7. Plan your outing at a public venue so as not
to intimidate or create an uncomfortable atmoshere. 8. Thank
your friend for a wonderful time (regardless) and DO NOT say
"I'll give you a call" if you do not intend to do so. If the
meeting did not produce what you expected, be honest and tell
them. Do not give someone false hope of a second date.
Enter this meeting with the idea that you have a new friend, and
plan and execute the time based on that premise, if romance does
not bloom, you still have a friend that you enjoyed talking to.
Be conscientious and thoughtful, someday you could be on the
other side of that coin and surely you would appreciate honesty
as well. Have fun, be open to any possibility and rejection, it
is all part of the cycle of life, enjoy the ride.