Men, Are You Too Ugly? Too Short? Here's How To Turn Your Dating
Flaws Into Strengths
Are you a guy with a high-pitched voice? Of maybe you've got a
face only a mother could love?
Well, whatever it is, if you're worried and upset about your
physical flaws, which prevent you from attracting women, then
I've got some good news for you.
Not only can you eliminate those flaws, you can turn them into
your advantage. I'll explain how by bringing up an example of
three guys who were very successful players in their day.
So here's a trivia question for you. What do Steve Tyler of
Aerosmith, the late rapper Eazy-E, and Curly from the Three
Stooges all have in common?
The answer is they all had voices so high that if they had
wanted to, they could have talked to someone on the phone and
that person wouldn't have known they were speaking to a man.
It would have been simple for all three men to have hung their
heads in shame and turn into beta males who never got laid and
never even could get a girl to talk to them.
In fact, I've coached a lot of men who have limiting beliefs
when it comes to things like their voice, their looks, their
genetics, etc. You name the trait, and there's always somebody
who uses that trait as a negative belief, which sabotages their
chances at success with women.
However, despite their high voices, Tyler, Eazy-E, and Curly
were all masters of a simple technique that turned that big flaw
into a big trademark that made them even more attractive to
women.
It's a simple technique that I learned when I studied
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), and it will help you as
tremendously as it did all three of those men.
In order to develop the confidence of my students, I have them
learn and apply this concept. The concept is called reframing.
Here's how reframing works. Basically, you take every negative
belief that you have and turn it into a positive, uplifting
question. Do it like this:
1. "I feel bad about my voice" becomes "How can I use my unique
voice as my own trademark that sets me apart from other guys?"
(That's what Tyler, Eazy-E, and Curly all did.)
2. "My face is pockmarked from acne" becomes "How is my face
totally awesome? How can my lack of natural good looks actually
help me with women?"
3. "I'm too short" becomes "How can I height to my advantage?"
As you ponder your new, reframed questions in your mind, your
brain will come up with answers to them.
For example, you might find that it's to your advantage to not
be a "pretty boy." Women expect good-looking guys to talk to
them, so when you're displaying the confidence to talk with
them, their guards will be down.
They won't expect you to try to pick them up. That gives you a
window of opportunity to display your confident, alpha male
personality.
Being short can allow you to gain rapport much easier with girls
than taller guys can. Tall guys have a psychological
communication barrier a lot of the time because they're
literally speaking to a lot of girls (who tend on average to be
shorter than guys) from a different level.
So remember, it's not your flaws that get in your way. It's your
limiting beliefs that do.
Your ugly face doesn't get in your way of meeting women. Instead
it's your belief about your face, which interferes with your
inner sense of confidence. That lack of confidence is the thing
that women pick up on.
For a woman to be attracted to a guy, the man's confidence level
is one of the most important traits that he can have. You can
become comfortable with yourself by turning your flaws from
weaknesses into traits that set you apart from the bland,
ordinary guys.
So I want you to stop reading after this, get out a pen (or open
a blank document in your word processor) and write out your
negative beliefs. Then write positive, uplifting questions about
how to turn those flaws into good things.
When you become happy and comfortable with all your traits,
through the technique of reframing, you'll become unstoppable
with your self-confidence. Gain that kind of confidence, and
you'll magnetically attract girls to you.
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